The divorce was the best thing for us, it worked for me !

Hell...I think the divorce is what started all the relationship problems.

2nd best thing i could have done.

Need a lawyer..mine wants a huge retainer to keep going..legal aid says I make too much money..I just want to pay the bill once my house is sold

Counseling did not work because I really did not want the marriage to continue.

I got it in 2001.

Getting away from the situation has helped, but still feel controlled.

We're divorced...didn't really make me feel better but at least he wasn't cheating any more since we were no longer married.

divorced an abusive husband many years ago.

Didnt get married to get divorced however this was the most logical choice for my sanity....its still a struggle because he hasnt accepted the divorce and the divorce will be final on 51308 and I continue to be harassed...he gives me no peace of mind and thinks he can change my mind the ironic thing is that he filed the divorced papers I then had to countersuit as he had a change of mind after 5 years..go figure..needs to get a life!

problematic as my children live with my ex which crucifies me

I feel guilty because of our children, but I am a stronger person now.

I handle it the best I could: being very nice and getting over it. I wish I had told him all I thought of him and how hurtful he was, instead I took the blame and that was the only way he left me alone. A heavy weight was taken off my shoulders, but I feel now (10 years later!) that I should've been more assertive and agressive and defensive.

was seperated for two years. Compared to most there is VERY little in this realtionship but still....

I guess it worked. We've been divorced for 3 years now. It's been difficult, especially since I moved back close to our old hometown. I'll never get over it but the intense agony is finally gone.