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Well, it's Saturday night and once again I'm home alone. This time a day sooner than normal. Because I …
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An emotional start to the day. I'm not sure how the topic came up but this morning, as my two little angels crawled into my bed, the topic of Christmas came up between the two of them. Lindsay was talking about the fact that they spent Christmas with me this past holiday, and the stbx the year before. Jeremy, as he is apt to argue simply out of spite for his younger sister, argued and said "no, we spend them both with dad". So, I explained that we do, in fact, alternate Christmas holidays between stbx and myself.
Well, this led to the question I'm sure many of you have heard (time and time again), "why did the two of you get divorced anyway?" With a near teary eye, I tried to explain that sometimes people change. And that, it's something that is common. I asked them if they knew any other children at school with divorced parents. They said yes. Which helped to reinforce my explanation that sometimes, these things happen.
Of course, what I wanted to say (when this question comes up) is "ask your mother". But I've never done that, and will try to avoid doing so. But my mind at least is thinking that answer to myself.
If applicable to your circumstances, how do you have that discussion with children?
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This is always so difficult and you handled it beautifully. The only thing that I added was that although mommy and I are unable to love one another, we both will always love you.. this helps to make the children know that it is not there fault.. Children tend to feel responsible and need to hear that it has nothing to do with them , but just that the parents have grown apart .. They need to hear that although you live apart, they will always have both of you to love them and that you will be there for them.. Hugs to you, kimmee
kimmeee
I agree wholeheartedly with kimmeee. You handled a difficult topic gracefully and with the 2 most important people in your life. I am sorry you're feeling badly but since we're being positive, please be proud of yourself for that, proudpops! You did great & the kids will thank you for that when they are able to realize this (but you may have to wait a just couple of years!!) ;-) Hi-5 on a great job!!
happy1day
it's heart breaking isn't it! My little boy Jack is 3 three...talking about my neighbours today he said " where does David sleep?" when i repied "he sleeps in Claires bedroom (his wife)" he said REALLY sadly "I want Daddy to sleep in your bedroom Mummy!!" It made me SO sad...all I could think to say is Daddy love you very much and so do I but people's situations are different...I so feel his pain though xx
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