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I'm ready to just crawl out of my skin today and i have no idea why! My, what to call him, boyfriend? Hardly, we are in our 40's! Significant other? Too clinical. Lover? Just no. Whatever, HE has started seeing a therapist and that is wonderful and i am happy for him. My problem with this whole situation is that he asks me 25 times a day if i'm leaving, if i'm seeing someone else, if it's too late for us. MY GOD how many times does one person need to be told? We went through some extremely stressful times recently and i can't say he was there for me. Even HE can't say that and he knows it and he is now eaten alive with guilt. But the more tightly he tries to hold on, the more i cringe and back away. I know this is all coming from my past, but honest to God, just pull up your bootstraps and get on with it! I have told him repeatedly that i am not having an affair, i don't want to leave this relationship, i love him. Now having said that, i do love him but the more pressure he puts on me the closer i get to leaving.
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That sounds pretty tough to deal with. Have you tried telling him in a tactful way that you need him to try and hold off a bit with the constant questioning of your love for him, this is a trust issue. Is he going to be speaking to his therapist about this. Have you thought about going to a couple of appointments with him? Sorry if you think Im being intrusive but id really like it if you felt you could talk to me. You've been very kind to me and I appreciate it. Big Hugs Loopy Lou
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