abfab’s Profile

About Me

Hi there. I am 45 years old and live in Northern Ireland with my 2 cats. 2007 was THE most awful year of my life, caused by my alcoholic ex who refused to believe that I wanted to end our relationship after nearly 4 years. I had had enough of his drinking and emotional control, which was 10 times worse when he was drinking. Of course I tried to "Cure" him, but it NEVER works! I had to endure 10 months of dreadful, emotional abuse when HE decided he wasnt going anywhere, resulting in me having a nervous breakdown and losing my job...and nearly my home. This only ended when he finally became violent and I was able to get a non molestation order to get him out of the house. Yes, the worst of it stopped last August but the mental scars are nearly worse! Somehow, I think while it was all going on I was on automatic pilot. Im lucky, I came through it all, now have a new job and have been slowly getting my life back together. I think Im nearly back to the old me....which is what has been keeping me going! I am on 40mg Citalopram for depression and I attend a 1-1 therapy to help me get back my confidence and self esteem and social issues. I also attend a weekly group therapy session called Journey To Freedom ran by Womens Aid in the UK. This course is fantastic and I would recommend it to ANYONE who has been through or is going through domestic abuse. I feel really good these days, I feel strong and capable and I am enjoying life again.

Interests

I love animals, and have 2 gorgeous cats. I also love dogs and horses, I used to ride a lot but Im too old and too big these days....lol I am a very keen cook, wouldnt say great but I enjoy it and I hope my guests do too! I also love puzzles and crosswords, scrabble and sudoko, anything to keep my mind active. I have been known to have a few drinks at the weekends....thats what weekends are for after a hard week at work...arent they?...lol