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Concentrating on being thankful and not dwelling on the negatives!
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About Me
"A teacher affects eternity. She can never know where her influence stops." -Henry Brooks Adams. I HAVE FINALLY GRADUATED!! I am a survivor! I am working on becoming the woman I envision myself to be after being emotionally and physically abused by the man I loved and was married to for 15 years. I am teacher for students who have learning disabilities and currently teach 7th grade. I proudly possess a Black Belt in Tang Soo Do (karate). I am reclaiming myself and becoming ME. I love to read, write, THINK, explore, learn and accept myself so I can become the woman I wish to be. I have 2 children and a very supportive mother, who sometimes drives me crazy. I am trying to be the change I want to see in the world.
Interests
sewing, singing, reading, learning, community theatre and seeing more within the universe around me!
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Happy Friday and I hope you have a wonderful weekend as well. Love & Hugs, Sandi
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Can u come here and teach me martial arts? I SO want to learn...someday. Take care and congrats once again. Have a great weekend. Hugs. DT
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Have a great day and wishes for a wonderful weekend as well. Love, Sandi
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Hey Donna....Hope all is well w/ you! I'm missing your journals!!! HUGS..........
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Hugs for a wonderful day. Hope you're doing well. Love, Sandi
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Close Physical & Emotional Abuse
Trying to recover from discovering I was married to someone I didn't really know and didn't understand (at 19 when I met him) that he was an emotional abuser. Spent 15+ years with him wondering what was wrong with ME. When I thought it was the marriage and needed him to work on it too, it backfired and I was physically assaulted. I'm working on redirecting my life and figuring out what a real relationship is supposed to be and encompass.
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- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- I've left it up to God. I have forgiven him for choking me and abusing me. I have let it go and I am at peace.
- Kickboxing Working / Worked
- I work out at home with kick boxing and take karate classes too. It is very empowering.
- Leave Working / Worked
- When my husband moved out I filed for divorce and now I'm a free!!!
- Pets Working / Worked
- I have 3 cats that snuggle and help me center myself
- Talking Working / Worked
- Talking to friends and loved ones helps put my experience in perspective, helps me grieve and move on and make changes in my life.
Close College Stress
went back to school in 1995 after my daughter was 2. Had some college before that but didn't finish. I got married and didn't have my degree.
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- Sleep Working / Worked
- I know the value of sleep and any time I can catch up, I do!
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- My mother helps out with my kids by cooking dinner and grocery shopping!
Open Parenting Teenagers (12-18)
My daughter is 14. She is "turning into my ex-husband!" She's nasty, uncooperative and it seems no matter how I try to help her, she fights me! She won't listen, she won't even try to help herself. She just thinks I'm calling her "evil" when I'm trying to help her improve herself.
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- Education (School) Somewhat Helpful
- I've taken a behavior class for my education degree and it's been good for insight as to WHY, but harder to implement change in something so undefinable!
- Patience Too Soon to Tell
- I try to be patient and understanding, but sometimes I feel like I'm not patient enough. SHE JUST DOESN'T "Get It!"
Open Breakups & Divorce
After my husband verbally and emotionally abused me for years, when I confronted him about it, it turned violent. He choked me. He moved into the basement and 6 months later moved out . I filed for divorce as soon as he moved out.
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- Couples Counseling Not Working
- We went to 2 different counselors before the divorce and neither one helped at all.
- Reading Somewhat Helpful
- It just depends. Some self-help books are great, others are too general or text-book-y. Not sure. I know I did the right thing. It's just hard
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Mom is helping with the bills while I finish school. I graduate in May. God bless her!
- Support Groups Somewhat Helpful
- Still needing something more
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- Perhaps I need some therapy
- Time Too Soon to Tell
- it's only been a little over a year. Still too soon and fresh. I am still in mourning for the man he never was and for all the things he did to me and abandoned me for.
Open Miscarriage
1 miscarriage after 1 healthy pregnancy. Mother made me have miscarriage at home because she said if I went to the hospital I was seeking an abortion!!!!
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