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Wednesday, May 7, 2008 | A General Update story

5/7/08 Wednesday Night

Well, been a while...my journal entries are getting further apart...from several a day to once in a while. I hope that is a sign I am getting better.

My birthday was Monday (Cinco de Mayo). Turned 41. My daughter baked a big brownie cake and I took them out to eat dinner. They went so far out of their way to be awesome on my b-day. They are my world!!!

Last Thursday I took the kids househunting because my X and I finally came to an agreement on the house. Then she broke it on Saturday and now we have an agreement again. This time she is in a rush to accept an offer on our Virgina Beach house so I am trying to get it in writing. Last year I lost a 5k deposit on a house when she backed out of a deal.

Well anyway, on the house hunting we went to one house and this really cute mom and her 2 year old let us in. She was very....very cute and I assumed she was married. After we looked at a few houses my realtor called and said he just got a call from the listing agent of the cute blond with the baby and the girl wanted to know if I was single and if she could have my phone number. It was very flattering. She called me last weekend while I was on reserve duty and said she thought I was cute had such well manered children and noticed I was not wearing a wedding band. She wanted to go out this week and we had tentative plans for tonight. I don't know if I was part chicken or anything (Cluck cluck) but I cancelled the plans last night because I have been getting millions of phone calls from work because we are having some big issues. Maybe next time we can work something out. She is only 31 so a little below my line I wanted. Did I mention how cute she was though...big ego booster right when I really needed it.

Soon I will have my own place and be rid of the last bit of cancer my X throws into my life. She is bragging about how she has 3 guys she is sleeping with. One in our town, one in Tampa and one in Chicago she met on her ski trip she took a few months back. She has flown to see him twice already. That used to really bother me but honestly now, it doesn't phase me or affect me.

I found a really nice house....a bit smaller than we have now, its about 2600 square feet, just 2 neighborhoods away and would keep my girls in the same schools. It is a short sale and I think I will put in an offer as soon as my X gives me something in writing. My daughters loved the house and I thought it had a bit of class and charm. It's only 3 years old and I can afford it with a decent monthly payment if I can get a decent deal.

My kids seem to be doing better. They both got straight A's on their report cards and we have been having lots of good quality time with eachother. When they are smiling....I am too!

Remember to hug your kids. Read them a book and tell them you love them.

Hugs to all!

Hug Mike40

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Great news on the house hunting front. Keep up the extraction process.(chuckle) I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that the ex keeps her word this time. (((HUGS))) ~ Michele

Joordens
Fewer journals is a great sign! You have come a long way in your healing process.

Congrats to your daughters on their report cards :)

Age is only a number. Don't let that stand in your way of at least getting to know her. I was scared my first time out too, it is only natural. It is so much fun getting to know someone new and getting that ego boost we all need after such an exhausting divorce ride.

All I can say about your EX is GROSS! I guess STD's don't mean anything to her or even the fact that sleeping around is just slutty.

Congrats to you for moving forward!!!!

KimN3
mmmm, brownie cake! :) Happy belated Birthday!

Best of luck on the house hunting! It will be so wonderful to get away from the ex and put that all behind you. You're ex is not quite right in the head, but I'm sure you know that.

NewLiz
Happy Belated BIRFDAY! (As my kiddos say) LOL!
Ah, your ex..... uggh... As if you want to hear about the VD lifestyle. My ex was the SAME WAY, except he would email me every day telling me about each new conquest. ICK. I hear you tho, after a while I didn't give one iota.
Blonde Cutie, eh? woo woo! You go, Mikey! I think you should go for it!
Good luck on finding a house:) Have fun with your girls!! They have a wonderful Daddy! :)
HUGS:)

makeitright
Things are looking up! Glad you enjoyed your birthday with your girls, kids make the world go round! Good luck with the house hunting, it will be such a relief to have that woman out of your life, for the most part.

sc2kids4me
I'm so happy things are going well. Age is just a number take her out.

bowlingmom
Wow you go MIKE41 now! That's great. Take her out and have a good time. It's not about starting a relationship...it's just getting to know someone. Happy belated birthday. That is so rude of your ex to throw that stuff in your face. Obviously she has no heart and is just trying to hurt you. I'm sorry that she's putting you through that. Hang in there!

cbracken
Love how our exes can no longer affect us. They hurt us badly in the beginning but at this point they only hurt themselves. Get out there and do some dating when you get a chance. No reason to be chicken, you only live once!

kinoka
I hope she keeps to the deal this time. It is always a good idea to make new friends. I think you will find it easier once you can stop focusing on the ex. (impossible to do when she is in your face every day.) Hugs to you and my fingers are crossed!

Jlhorlando
So much good news!! I hope all goes well with the new house, sounds like it is just meant to be! Don't be afraid to go out with the new lady...just do it! No regrets! Happy belated bday Mike! HUGS

mrsmixedup
Oh, I think you're getting better... :))))) It's nice to see you move on with your life. Don't pay attention to your X. Let her do whatever she feels like doing. It's not your problem anymore. Take care of yourself and your girls. Good luck with the house...and the cute woman!

Victoire
whoo hoo Mike. Things are on the up and up for you! I hope the house stuff falls into place this time you really need this. To become separate and independent of her selfish taunts. I'm so excited about your date. You should at least go out once. Dating can definately boost the ego some.

Oh and Happy Birthday!

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