So after the hubby got home last night and I told him the "news" about how if the judge decides that his other marriage is legal and grants the divorce that our marriage is null and void and we would have to get married again, I started thinking more about it. I also thought about a post on my last journal from a friend about a new wedding and I actually got excited. You know they always say that a daughters wedding is actually the wedding that your mother wanted. Well that was my case. Don't get me wrong I love my mom and she is one of my best friends, but everything I wanted to do for MY wedding she fought me on tooth and nail, so really we did everything SHE wanted. Which I do have to say it did turn out nice. But now that there is a possibility that I get to do it again I'm going to do it MY way and of course pay for it myself. The hubby and I sort of talked about it last night and there is a place near his parents house that is very pretty and we talked about doing it there. But this time, he'll wear what he wants to wear and I figure I'd find another dress. Something much more simplier and comfy!! I also started thinking that if we do have to do it again it will give us a chance to re-new our relationship. After everything that has happened, it seems that this is a blessing in disguise, to bring us back together and realize how grateful we are for each other. Since we don't know if he judge will even acknowledge that the other one is legal, since there is no license, no assests and no children, we don't know if we'll have to even re-new our vows. So we maybe completely jumping the gun. But I figure no matter what I think we should re-new them just to bring us back to each other. Even with the BP and everything that has happened I do love him and I know he loves me. I think sometimes we forget to show each other that, since actions do speak louder than words.
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Wonderful, I agree that it could be a nice fresh start no matter what the judge decides. I would re-new them no matter what just to put a whole new look on things. The place you talk about sounds like exactly what you want (and need). Hope all goes well.
ExFire252
That's an awesome way of looking at it, and totally agree that it could be a fresh start - which could be very helpful! Good for you :)
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