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Monday, November 19, 2007

I Am So Mixed Up!!!

I cant continue like this, everything is getting too much, tomorrow I have to go and see the lady at the job centre again, I only saw her last week why do I have to see her again so soon as normally I go to the job centre every other week and only saw her last week.I hate seeing this lady as she asks me questions and then ignores my answers, at the moment she wants me to get a job in sales, when I have quite clearly told her I dont want to work in sales, I dont like it, but we have to go for jobs she wants me to go for or she gets upset,

so going in tomorrow and just going to nod my head and agree with everything she says as what is the point of saying different as she does not listen and does what she wants anyway?

All I want right now is to take some time off, to reassess things to have a breather, to get my head around things, as I have had one down right awful year and it has been so hard and all the emotion from this year is just coming to the service and also I am getting my head around this condition I have recently found out I have.

so i want to ask the the doctor on friday if she will give me a sick note due to all this as really there is no way I could work at the moment i will most likely start then have to take sick leave. but scared to ask doctor if she would give me one as i dont think she will give me one even though she can see for her self that i am getting worse. I know I am being stupid about this but I am just scared

I just dont know what to do is it so wrong to want to take some time off and get my self together? is how this job centre lady treating me right? I dont know what to do.

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PLEASE GO BACK TO DOC AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND ASK FOR SICK NOTEXXXXXXXX

toolboxcounsellor
To be honest i dont really know how the job centre works, but i am pretty sure that the lady should be listening to what you want out of a job. There is no point her saying for you to do a certain job when if you dont like it, you might just end up leaving anyway. The job centre are supposed to find work for people that they enjoy and want to work in. Otherwise you end up back at square one again. Go to the DR tomorrow and talk to her about the way your feeling ect, there is no point in getting a job if it's going to make you ill. Try and not be scared, try to think positively, i know it's easier said than done. Take care and good luck xxoo

blether2
I dont know what answer to give to this one, sweetie, I daresay others will be able to give you a better idea. How much time do you want off do you think? I suppose the doctors do have to be a bit careful, but if you are honest and she can see what difficulties you have had, then she should give you sick leave. Be very honest with her and tell you are trying very hard to get yourself sorted and this will really help you - but, of course, you will say this, wont you anyway....with much love to you and take care....Cathrynn XX

Cathrynn
you should go to the doc, see what they say you should do, looking out for yourself isnt a bad thing, making sure your going to be healthy to keep the job is whats important, keep your head up ok? things will work out, and she needs to listen to you, you should stand up for yourself also! tell her how it makes you feel jus my opinion :) tons of huggles!

crzyglu
well it sounds like a choice, if you want the time off you need to ask for the note. if you get the time off, then you'll have to deal with the centre. if you don't want to deal with them, then don't ask for time off.

yeouxleigh
You should express to this woman how you feel (that she's not listening to you). Hopefully you can talk about it and move in a foward, positive direction from there......I realize you'd like to take some time to yourself (with the way I've been working lately, I need some time too:), but sometimes too much time can be a problem. I would only suggest something really brief(like a four day weekend), otherwise you can send yourself into a slump....be careful. And be well!!

xo, Julia

ThinkingPinking
I would have a honest talk with the Doc. & tell her just how you feel. I read that when people are grieving their ability to function goes down. Check it on the internet. Sorry, I forgot the site. Keep on trying until you get the note. Don't be afraid to speak up. Good Luck HUGS love lucille

joeymom
Please talk to your doc again and tell her how you feel and that it is necessary for you to have a note. I would more assertive and tell her that you need the note. You need time for yourself Darling.

poetrywriter
You need time to work things out, Sweetie. Ask for the sick note and tell this lady at the job centre to go take a leap! You cannot work when you are so sick & confused. Take your break & don't feel guilty.

Alexandra5
They all said it - tell your doctor everything, and definitely get a sick note. Good luck! Love, Susan xo

economygrill
Talk to your doctor again and tell her how you feel. Good luck!

Zydeco
If the job center lady wants you to get a job in sales, ask her why does she feel that way, maybe she sees something in you that you don't see. Couldn't hurt to ask. As for a note from the doctor, might not be a bad idea to take time off, but try to set a time limit to it, for staying in can get depressing too. Last but not least, if you don't want to work in sales, don't. You should have a job that you like or it will just stress you out more. Love you AJ, keep in touch.

GentleSilverWolf
When you go to the Job Centre and see this lady I would put this question to her: "I know your job is to ensure I find a job and I appreciate what you are trying to do, but I need you to listen to me and my needs. Since an early age I have had a terrible life, one that you cannot even imagine and I want to get my life on track, I do want to work, but I want to work in a different field to the one you are recommending. Somepeople will do very well in Sales, but I am not that person. I do not want to take a position, which should be filled by someone else, plus at the moment I am not very well". If she will not listen to you, ask to deal with someone else, you have rights and she cannot bully you into doing something that you don't want to. I personally feel, if you have time, it would be better for the doctor to sign you sick, but I have heard this week that they are changing the benefits system and the new forms you fill in no longer ask what you carnt do, but what you can do, this may work in your favour because you are very good at communicating with people, standing up and conversing and perhaps this will make this listen to you needs. I wish I lived nearer and I could go with you. I am a strong person and I hate it when people are walked all over and needs are not taking into account. Tell her "I am not a pidgeon, you cannot just push me into a hole, the hole. I will not fit into the hole you are trying to put me in". Let me know have you get on. Love Karen x

lucylocket
wow lucylocket, thats good stuff. dont let yorself get pushed around and go back t the drs for a sick note, imagine how much more unwell you could be if you dont xxxx

lotusleaf
Do you think that time off is really what you need? Personally i find that working gives me a focus other than my problems, less time to dwell on them and feel sorry for myself. Mixing with other people makes me get out there and stops me becoming withdrawn. Some days it is hard to get out of bed but if i don't work, i don't get paid and my family don't eat, so i have no choice. On the other hand if you feel that you are not capable then you have to go see your doctor and get signed off for a while. Just be careful that if you do get signed off that it is only for as long as is really nessacary, otherwise you may never get back to work.

Bettybelle
I can understand that asking the dr for a sick certificate, is scary, but it would really help you at the moment i think if you could go and get one.At least, it would give you a bit of breathing space from the jobcentre etc, and allow you some time to get well and regroup.Thinking of you Aj.Love Lydia xx

nebel
go and ask for the note - taking time out is a fine idea, I have just taken 6 months off, the only downside is you can sleep away a lot of the day. Ask yourself why this lady at Workcentre is the way she is, clearly like you and sales, it's a bad fit. She will be targetted with etting people into work, regardless of the work. Don't let this fool upset you
Good Luck
L

Les123
you need to tell this ladie what you want! it's your life not hers! may be you shouldn't get a sick note as being stuck at home is depressing in its self good luck with what ever you choose x x

swifty3
I wish i knew what to say' I broke my foot last sunday riding my bike and I have been sitting around and not doing much moving. The pain has been really bad as you can image' I wanted to say that when you think things are at it's worst it can get worst' I've suffered through a broken arm now my foot is broken. I'm not in good shape right now as you can imagen' Anyway, i wish you the best and please allow me to get a little stronger and more healed and I can then be more responsive' I will be out of town today till sunday for the thanksgivings holidays' Hang in there PLEASES''' Your friend Eric always'

ericch
you stand up for your self if you need some time off tell your dr and take the time you need and this job service lady is to pushy can you request another one or just tell her thats not the type of work your intrested in and keep your foot down how dare her to tell you how to live your life

angelrv61
She should be listenin 2 u hun n shes not so no shes not treating you right. I have been to the docs before and got a sick note, its nerve rackin at the start but once you start to explain they will see, but you gotta ask hun cuz at the mo maybe ur doc thinks u can cope. Start saying wat u want dont let people walk on u hun u gota do wats rite for u xx

becbob
The job lady should listen to you and assign you jobs that you will like so that you may do a GOOD job! Can you get a new person?
Definitely talk to the Dr.....

MellyW
I think a note for time off is the only answer here. You surely won't have your mind on work and it could only make the situation worse for you mentally. Love & hugs Dale

dalecl
i think that you do need some time out i do also think that you need to talk to this lady that u are seeing and tell her what u are worrying about
and just go to ya doc and see what he says i think that you do need time out to think about what you really want to do and may be change that lady that you have as you really dont get on with her
hope that thigs go well for you hunny much love to you emma xxxx

emma16341
hugs hun am missing you heaps we need to have a chat soon!

mumofthree
You might talk with your doc. Are there really any areas in work that you think you could do that wouldn't exacerbate your symptoms??

TLCDaisy
In the short term, I would get a cheaper place to live, if you dont have one already. Tighten your belt financially, and take a part time job instead. Then you would have the time to relax, grieve, think, and generally collect yourself. If you cant afford London, then move to a smaller town maybe? I really think you need to find a creative solution, and to do that you will need to buy yourself some time, and this should help you to stop panicing. Send more time in prayer too.

julesr1
make sure you talk to your doctor and tell him/her everything, hopefully your doctor can help you hugs x

emilymorgan07
I hope you can get through this.talk to the doc i love you. kristin

loffra180
if the lady is a head hunter working on commission she should only send you to jobs that you have requested an interview with. if it is a public program, they will send you anywhere that is hiring as their objective is just to get people working.

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