Journal Entry for August 13, 2007
August 13, 2007 6:33pm
I'd like to mention that it has not all been bad. I've learned a lot about myself in this painful journey. Positive thing that …
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About Me
I love humanity, and people from all over the world. My belief is that we are endowed with gifts from a higher order, and like we take care of a medical ailment, spirtuality is an essential piece of human development. By spirituality, I don't mean religion. I mean the ability to be with oneself without distractions and taking the time to assess what we need in our lives, and what needs to be discarded if one is to fully evolve as a person.
Interests
Reading, writing, engaging in Dan Yoga, meditation, excercise, jogging, being among family members, and friends, dancing, and much more.
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Monday
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Carm416 gave stepdadnomore a Hug 8:08am
I'm hoping you are fine.…
July 2
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Thank you amanda28 for informing me. Internal peace, love…
June 30
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Carm416 replied to superdad133’s request for advice about What do we want in a spouse. in the Breakups & Divorce support group 6:36pm
Fidelity, a good communicator both verbally and receptively. Someone who takes responsibility for his…
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Carm416 gave stepdadnomore a Hug 4:52pm
Wow, it sounds like you've made alot of progress re: your breakup. As far as your friend having a different…
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Carm416 gave stepdadnomore a Hug 4:52pm
Wow, it sounds like you've made alot of progress re: your breakup. As far as your friend having a different…
June 29
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Carm416 replied to MorganRedSkye’s discussion post Lying Sack of **** in the Physical & Emotional Abuse support group 3:27pm
Think about yourself and your baby. He sounds like a loser. Truthfully, you don't need him to have a…
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Lots of hugs to you and your lovely daughter.…
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Carm416 replied to lindslil’s discussion post new here- need support / hugs in the Breakups & Divorce support group 3:20pm
Welcome, you've joined the right place (Daily Strenght.Org), and the right community. We have gone through…
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Glad it's over for you. Stay strong. Knowing what you want is the first step.…
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Carm416 replied to emaneerks’s discussion post Boundaries. in the Physical & Emotional Abuse support group 12:29pm
Thoughtful discussion. We have alot in common. My ex violated alot of those boundries and felt entitled…
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Journal Entry for August 13, 2007
August 13, 2007 4:07pm
John Gray's, PhD. Mars and Venus in Love Inspiring and Heartfelt Stories of Relationships that Work quotes "An apology acknowledges …
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Journal Entry for August 2, 2007
August 2, 2007 9:15am
To day I feel . I woke up this morning thinking of how fortunate I am to have escaped the abuse. I'm feeling more focused, energetic, …
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Journal Entry for August 1, 2007
August 1, 2007 8:28pm
Today I can . I wrote a letter to my previous partner informing him of the abusive scenarios I endured while being involved with him. …
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I am. I am starting a new life today. I am not going to even talk about...HUM?? Somebod y I used to know. I think that is the only way I can get over this mess. I can't seem to feel any better about talking..so I am taking a vow of silence. Hope you are doing well and have a great week!! HUGS!!
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Hey, just wanted to give my ole friend a big hug for the weekend. Thanks for letting me vent in my first days of my breakup...you did wonders on my healing!! HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!!
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Hope you have a great week!! HUGS TO YOU!!
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My weekend was ok. I'm doing fair these days. How are you?
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Support Groups
Close Empty Nests
About a week ago my 26 year old son moved out of the house and into his own apartment. Since, I've been feeling a little depressed, and feel lonely during the hours that I'm home and his was home. I miss his presence, his laughter, his sense of humor and keep talking myself into "Your son is all grown up now and ready to go into the world on his own and emotionally and financially prepared to be on his own. All those thoughts are intellectual.
Treatments
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Individual counseling has helped me express my feelings.
Close Breakups & Divorce
June 13, 2008 will make a year I separated from a male who had little respect for himself, let alone be respectful of me. I can honestly say that it has taken almost a year to move on and come to a resolution. In short, we were not meant for each other. It would have been dismal if I continued dating him. I spent more time being unhappy than happy. Since I've been free of my unhappiness, I'm able to think clearly, and focus on what is important in life.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Somewhat Helpful
- Couples counseling was somewhat helpful in that I was able to express my feelings, thoughts without fear of retrebution. As far as helping the relationship, I came to realize that emotionally my ex was not ready to be in a committed relationship. He wanted to be with me while at the same time having cybernet friends on a SINGLES WEB SITE whom he exchanged phone numbers and revealed all of our relationship problems to people whom he did not know.
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- I worked through the process of releasing negative emotions. Emotions that were really taking a toll on my physical health.
- Leave Working / Worked
- I decided to end the relationship and realized that Love is not enough to keep people together, especially is your significant other is not involved in the process of trying to make the realtionship work.
- Reading Working / Worked
- I spent my entire summer reading Dr. Gray's books about relationships and gained a lot of insight.
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Talking it out with friends helped, however I also felt vulnerable to issues of confidentaility when it comes to my private life.
- Time Working / Worked
- Like everything in life, time allowed me to put things into perspective and I came to realize that I was not in healthy relationship and felt very unhappy.
Open Physical & Emotional Abuse
My significant other called me from a cab on his way to kareokee. He told me that he is working overtime to buy me gifts. Since I know he is in financial arrears, my response to him was "There isn't anything that I would want more than for you to save your money." He response to me was "I'm in a good mood". Meaning that what I said to him was going to get him in a bad mood. He wanted me to agree to discuss personal things in person. I did not agree. He stopped calling me.
Treatments
- Abuse Counseling Working / Worked
- I recently began abuse counseling and beginning to recognize how unavailable this partner was to me, and his lack of investment in the relationship.
- Talking Working / Worked
- I've spoken to various mental health providers perceived his actions as very immatured, and abusive.
- Yoga Working / Worked
