Tinks5’s Profile

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Partner/Spouse

My name is Lisa. I am 40 yrs old and a widow. I have 5 children ranging in age from 21 to 5 yrs old. I am a christian.

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

Somtimes crying helps to relieve the load grief puts on your sholders.

Keeping Busy Working / Worked

When my husband first passed away I was never home. Home reminded me he was never coming back. I went shopping alot.It was a distraction for me. The nights were the worst for me it reminded me how alone I was.

Prayer Working / Worked

I am a christian It was really hard for me to believe God would let me down like that and so at first I was angry with him and so I ranted and raved alot. I asked why alot and was angry with God. I have a personal relationship with the Lord, so I knew he was big enough to take it and he loved me just the same. Whith out God and being able to (pray)talk to him I'm sure I would have completely lost it and don't know what would have become of me.

Reading Working / Worked

I read tons of grief books. Most of them helped greatly. I was able to see that the grief and simptoms of it where normal.It helped to know I was not going crazy and also explain the physical aspect of it .

Remembering Working / Worked

I hate remembering it is still too painful.

Getting Angry Working / Worked

In the beginning I screamed at God and my dead husband, at both for letting me down and leaving me alone. I learned in a grief book that was normal feelings and behavior.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

I had some great support from family, friends and my pastor. No one should have go through this alone.

Talking Working / Worked

Talking,venting and communicating my feeling to others help greatly. Just having a listening ear was therapy. People should listen more and hand out advise less.Even more so if they have never expierenced loss.

Time Working / Worked

Time, it has been two and a half years and I have deffinatly improved greatly. That first hour,day,week, I did not think I could make it.Even after the first year, the loss was so deep. It became a little less intence as the months passed by. I am here to tell you time does not heal all wounds. It does not heal soul wounds.They leave a scar.