keriraye's Journal

So.  My fiance talked to the BM's mother.  Her name is Linda.  She says she would really like to see a parenting plan put in place to see if the BM can even handle THAT much responsibility.  But that no matter what, she is on my fiance's side and is willing to go all the way if need be.

I had a gut feeling she would say this.  I just never voiced it out of some superstitious fear that if I said it aloud it wouldn't be true!!  Linda already took one of the BM's children from her.  The BM's oldest, who is 7 now, has been raised by Linda since he was about a year old I believe.  The BM gave him up without a fight.  But back then she was 19 or 20, in college, and was partying it up.  I don't think she would just give up that easily these days.

On the other hand, there are some cold hard facts that keep getting my hopes up.  The BM is more broke than we are.  I mean, can't have utilities in her own name type of broke.  She owes money to too many banks and institutions to even have a checking account.  She just recently got a job and so far she's doing well with it, but financially she's so far behind I don't see how part time at the local gas station is going to get her ahead anytime soon.  She refuses, still, to apply for any assistance.  She completely qualifies for welfare.  I don't think she's even on WIC.  SHe also qualifies for housing assistance and if she would have gotten on the list a couple of years ago, she would be in a house by now, paying almost no rent.  All her threats are bogus.  I know, because I have spoken to law enforcement and read the actual laws.   

So.  With an actual lawyer.  With a parenting plan.  With her mother testifying against her.  Her mother that already took a child from her for safety reasons.  We might have a shot. 

Guess who hasn't called the lawyer to get the parenting plan started???  Give you a hint, I'm just a future step mom, so it isn't me.

I don't understand the fact that he's not ALL OVER THIS like I am.  I really don't.