keriraye's Journal

Boy oh boy. 

So, as usual, I deal with 2 BM's.  One I get along with (who just annoys me) and then the OTHER one.  And of course this is the one that we deal with since geographically she's here.  The other one is in Topeka, KS and ever so much easier to handle.

Just a quick recap.  The one that lives here.  Since Oct 06 (I will summarize) has had heat shut off, been evicted, mother bought her a $3000 trailer, heated by space heaters, gotten pregnant AGAIN (she's got 3 now and the oldest is 3.  hows that math?), power shut off AGAIN, had to move to her mothers, 12 people in the house, my ss (3 yo) sleeps on the couch with his 2 yo brother. 

During all this, her husband has only been employed about 30% of the time, getting fired, sitting around, another job, fired, sitting around, etc.  She has worked like 8 weeks MAYBE. 

So they are living with her mother.  I guess the husband went off on her mother, and has been kicked out.  The BM is finally going to file for divorce.  She's been claiming to want to leave him for the whole time I have been around, but has found one excuse after another and even had 2 kids with him!!  But this time, it's REAL.  Just like the last time.  Last time she kicked him out (living in the condemned trailer, no less) but since neither of them had a job, he went to live with a friend, and then she got a job for like a week, and had to spend all her money on gas to make her husband babysit.  All the while calling my fiance every day for help.  I need gas money, I need movies, my car quit, Oh you've done so much, here's a massage (she's a licensed massage therapist).  He got the massage, but that's a whole 'nother story. 

Anyway, back to the point.  So she tells my fiance she's really truly getting divorced this time and now that he's gone she can finally qualify for all the assitance programs here. 

Um, what??  Say that again??

Bitch, you have been living on nothing but the child support my fiance pays for ONE of your kids and you didnt' qualify for assistance when you husband lived with you????

I swear to God.  If she hadn't moved to Bridger, I would go kick her ass just for being stupid. 

Here is the REAL story according to Keri.  I have to get this out or I'm gonna blow. 

She has a 7 year old.  He was born when she was 19 and going to massage therapy college.  She gave up parental rights to her cancer ridden mother.  She's not even raising her own kid. 

Then she moves to MT.  My idiot fiance knocks her up.  She takes off claiming he's 'never there for her' and meets loser, who she promptly marries. 

Immediately after my fiance's son is born, they of course are jobless and broke and basically homeless.  My fiance allows them to live with him for free for his sons sake.  Where almost immediately, she and my fiance (I was still overseas and had never met any of them at this point) start a torrid affair.  The loser husband works at a fast food place, and he's also sleeping with some other girl.  It's a Jerry Springer show with no audience. 

Guess who gets prego???  So now it's a crap shoot.  Whose baby is it??

So she and loser find a place to live.  So now she's got my fiances son, who is not even a year old yet, and new baby.  My fiance starts writing her checks with "child support" in the memo field.  He gives her what he can, and it's only a verbal agreement.  They are still sleeping together.   He goes over to see his son and "hang out."  Loser has some type of part time job and eventually gets fired and stays home all day, putting a damper on the affair.  She finds out he cheated anyway, and so the downfall of the marriage starts, and it's HIS fault, even though she's still sleeping with my fiance. 

About this time, I come along.  He and I did not date for nearly 3 months after we met, so she was still getting some from him.  Once he and I decided to start dating, he cut her off.  And that's when the shit storm happened.  The threats, the nasty messages, the phone calls, the awful internet mud slinging.  Finally my fiance went to CSED and got the money he paid her made all official, and she got $30 more a month than he was already paying her.  She STFU pretty quickly there for a bit.  She thought she was going to get $500 a month.  Dumb hooker.  She even said to my fiance "you promised you would wait for me.  I was about to get a divorce, but if you're with HER, I have to change my plans......."   WHAH WHAH WHAH  Basically she hates me for taking something she tossed.  Not that my fiance is off the hook for sleeping with her this whole time.  He could have zipped his pants up.

I start my "dirt.doc."  She gets evicted.  Her mother buys the $3000 trailer and parks it in a trailer court for her.   Things calm way down because she gets pregnant AGAIN.  My fiance's son isn't even 2 when she finds this out.  By this time, she and I have ZERO contact.  I had done several nice things for her, only to be stabbed in the back, called an alcoholic, violent, gun activist, and all around evil person by her.  So I stopped being nice.  And found this site, thank my lucky stars!!! 

Loser hubby cheats again while she's prego.  She boots him out, but she can't work because she has no daycare and so gets a job at the KOA and spends all her money ferrying her loser hubby from his buddies place, back to their condemned trailer, then back to her work, back to the trailer, to his buddies house, then back home.  Borrowing money from my fiance the whole time, borrowing movies, needing him to fix the car, calling and telling him how great he is in front of loser hubby.........Then the massage incident.  Her boss was going to have to pay to fix her car, but my fiance showed up and was able to trim a hose and fix it, but hurt his back doing so.  The boss offered a free massage, I said not from her, and he DID.  That was a fight, but we got through it.  I actually wrote her a letter saying how inappropriate it was, and was told that I'm too sensitive, she's a professional, and that my feelings really don't matter anyway. 

Fast forward a bit.  Loser hubby works full time finally.  New baby girl is born.  I send some baby gifts and a card.  They are well recieved and she starts making noises about how we should all start getting along.  I tried my ass off to get along with her over a year ago, but she was still mad I "stole her knight" even though she dumped his ass and used him for sex before I ever came along.   But now that SHE'S ready, I am supposed to forget the completely ignorant things she called me???  No.  I treat her son as well as I can, which is pretty damn good, but she needs to think before speaking and learn that bridges get burned.  This one is GONE.

Now, this whole time, her hubby is working, but his pay is garnished over 50% for arrears in child support to his LAST wife.  He didn't ever pay because he thinks one of the kids isn't his.  WHAT????  Whatever.  I am starting to not be suprised anymore.

Then, she calls.  "If my step mom paid for it, would you do paternity on XXXXX?"  As in the 2nd baby, who she said was definitely NOT my fiances.  I have been around this little guy (we take him sometimes as well as my ss) and trust me, after seeing my fiance's 8 yo and 2 yo, this little guy CAN'T be his.  But all of a sudden, loser hubby is putting 2 and 2 together because she finally came clean about the affair. 

I said (just to be a bitch, trust me) that I will pay for the paternity but my fiance will take paternity for ALL of her kids.  Even the new baby.  And that loser hubby would, too. 

Oh, everyone STFU in record time that day.  I think she's afraid to find out who the REAL daddies are.  

Things calm down until 2 months ago.  Her power is shut off, and it's cold here.  She freaks on us when we offer to take my ss until she gets situated.  And as usual, calls back apologizing for the awful shit that comes out of her mouth.  As my fiance lets her do it every single time.

She has to move her whole family, loser hubby included, to her mothers.  And it's too far away to afford to drive to loser hubby's job.  So now they have no jobs and live with her mother.  And now we are where I was talking about when I started. 

Does anyone think she tried for assitance this whole time.  The answer is NO she did not.  But now that loser is gone, she qualifies??  BITCH, YOU QUALIFIED THE WHOLE TIME.  It's INCOME based, not whether you're single or not.  Jesus Christ. 

Her myspace says she's a "bitch and a princess."  No, you're a lazy whore who wants other people to take care of you.  And you're dragging your children down the poverty road because you are too fucking proud to admit you fucked up and GET HELP. 

ARRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHH.  It's a damn good thing my fiance asked me very politely (I pitched a fit, but you know, it's what I do) to back off.  Which I have done.  I am working very hard on backing off.  But the bitch still pisses me off!!!!!!!

You should hear me hitting the keyboard!!  Like that's going to help, right?  :o)