Karen's Story I was married to …
Karen's Story I was married to Steve for twelve years. When we got married we agreed that if we had any problems …
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I need space. Distance. Less heavy stuff. But how to say that? Saying that is easy it's how it's taken that's the hard part. My friend who a few weeks back or maybe a month overdosed is completely draining me. She calls me so often and it's never just to talk. it's always about the heavy problems going on in her life. I want to be there for her but there are some things she has to get through alone. She depends so much on other people and it's not only exhausting for them, it's also damaging for her because if they aren't there, she's screwed. We talked about this when I visited her and I thought she understood it. She may but she doesn't act on it.
I feel like right now our relationship is one sided. It seems like I've always had to be there for her and I don't know how much longer I can do that. I mean my life is not going well right now. It's hell. My parents are constantly mad at each other and me. My mom is having health problems and things are always tense. I work two jobs and am starting a new school and I have so much to do. it's like she calls me last night and goes on and on about her problems and doesn't even ask about what's going on in my life or what I've been doing. I spent over 150 dollars to go see her plus I had to take time off work, which is more money lost. She didn't help me pay for it. She always says she doesn't have money but she gets paid more per hour than me and probably works more hours. Instead she spends $100 on clothes and now she's talking about seeing me but she says she won't have the money to do anything. I guess this wouldn't all bug me so much it's just I feel with everything and I mean everything, it's all so inconsiderate.
I'm trying my best to be there for her but all I want to do is leave. It's too much and it seems there comes a point in time when it can all get to be too much. If I had some distance from her, I don't think I'd feel this way. I need space. But she called again today like twice and will probably call again tomorrow. And I don't even want to talk to her. Is that terrible?
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you always have alot going on in your life ane you are a strong nineteen year old.(really strong, smart and good hearted). You need to be there for your friend but do not let her problems become yours, you need to make some healthy boundaries for yourself. Your a great person. take care.
eddieEddie
i knw how u fel grl. we were friends or so i thought with a few grls here where we live and its was always onesided on our parts. jr would give em rides when they needed to go somewhere and they complained that 2 dollars a week was too much for gas. i would help em out and do their nails and hook up with a caseworker where we are so they can get food stamps for their kids and stuff and yeah maybe a few times they babysat for us but they would blow up our cell phne askin how much longer we would be. it got to the point where i out a sign on our front door which is still there sayin no cigs no rides no babysitting as i would sit their kids all the time so they could go to a club or something. they only knocked on our dorr when they wanted or needed something. so i put a stop to it and thats what u have to do grl. u are not responsible for anyone elses life unless u have ure own kids to take care that is u have to take care of u and do what needs to be done hun i knw its hard cause its great havin someone need u but then when they dont wanna talk about u or hang out its all onesided and it drains ya. u deserve betta peeps in ure life cause im sorry to say shes no friend. i hope things work out and knw ure in our prayers hun :)
KsHOrTy