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Thursday, May 8, 2008

today went okay, I have come up with a "game plan" so now I have some sort of idea what my furture will be. I had someone look at the car last night, and he said he would give me 5,000 for it, but that seems kinda low to me, so I said no. but I know that if he saids no to my offer, of him moving in here, just for finanational reason, no working on the marrage nothing, just so he can get on his feet, and so that the kids and I dont have to leave, then I will sell his car, or my car, keep the money, pay off my debt, and use the rest to rent a apartment or a house, and then we can go to a menator and for 50.00 dollars for fileing and what ever the metator cost I can be divorced from him, in about 6 weeks since we arent fighting about anything, and the only thing we have to come up with a amount on is child support, there is no reason to drag out the divorce, He can live in this house until it sells, and then that money will be splint up, he will deal with his debt and I will deal with mine, see as always he is the dumb ass if he was smart he would take the offer, but he wont, am sure he has a girl friend, thats why he was so hell bent on not comming home, and getting his own place, but so be it, it hurts like hell, but the ball is in my court, am in control of this and it is about time I start acting like it!!!!!!

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Julie. I know you've got a lot on your plate and I am praying for you. They say that 95% of people don't leave a spouse unless there is someone else and the other 5% is usually people that leave their spouses because of addictions. So, he has probably had a gf which is why he hasn't been able to commit. But, you have suspected that for a long time. I can tell you are stronger and even though this is the pits and will hurt as the separation of stuff and moving and all will be, just know your friends here on DS will be there for you. We have been supporting you through this whole process and we won't stop. Some day, he might see the error of his ways. But in the meantime, you've got to take care of you and the kids. Big huge hugs to you.

caligirl67410
You sound real good and positive...I know that inside you are hurting but you have made the choice to keep moving forward.

AhHa
Just thinking of him, with someone else, just kills me, it is like my heart is being ripped out of my chest, but I cant let it get to me, I must move on!

julies3