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  From EthelM October 2

  I think it's good to laugh about this. I haven't mentioned that on the site, but my husband and I make jokes about our son sometimes. We have to! It helps. Thanks!

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  From Sparrow12878 August 15

  I think you're an amazing person to be the caregiver. I just wanted you to know that my prayers and thoughts are with you. May God give you strength to help your through this.

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  From 3977BL July 21

  I was thinking about you....Hugs and Prayers,Lisa

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  From bic2 July 17

  You're not being selfish at all.What you're doing takes more than one human being has to give. My mom has Alzheimers, is in the later part of the early stages. My dad passed away almost a year and a half ago and I moved in wih her, and I can't believe the deterioration I have seen. I work full time, had to leave her alone during the day. It was becoming impossible, and I told her that we had to have someone to stay with her during the day. SHe refused, and we discussed retirement home. She actually agreed, and we had her in one really quickly.She is doing really well there, and the staff are fantastic. And I see her having the company of people her own age and the stimulation of the programs and I am relieved to see what they can offer. BUt the truth is- there is now a "staff" taking care of her, not just one person.And I realize how big a task I took on, because I was doing it alone. And she is nowhere near the stage your grandmother is at. SO girl, don't you listen to the criticism of anyone, pat yourself on the back for doing a job the majority of the population couldn't even begin to do, and try to get yourself some respite. YOu are up against a horrible disease, and the day will come when you can't do it anymore. And I get the whole family not helping thing, because I have 4 sibs, but they just don't feel the commitment I felt. And I didn't realize the stress I was under until it stopped.SO whatever you can do foryourself, whatever help you can muster to give yourself a break, take it. And consider the possibility that she now requires a level of care that demands it be shared amongst people, ie staff, versus one caregiver.I always swore my mother would never go into a home, but things got quite bad at the end, and I'm not so convinced that home at any cost is the best option anymore.You deserve accolades for what you are doing, adn I'm sorry you aren't getting support from your family. At least I had a sister telling me that after 2 hours with my mom, she was having chest pain.

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  From paucat July 11

  hi michelle , im a michelle as well and my gran really went down hill from christmas it is really a horrible disease,we are at the stage we are putting my gran into a home we have all been trying to keep her in her own home but it has come to the stage enough is enough,she is in hospital getting accessed,but she doesnt even know us,half the time,and this breaks my heart everytime i see her,ive been up all night crying,as you say you feel you have already lost your gran ,i feel the same,but it doesnt stop you loving them and you hurting over what is happening to them, wish you all the best,

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