seekingwisdom’s Profile

Close Breakups & Divorce

I feel like this probably needs an update since so much time has gone by. I have been married for 22 years and love my husband very much. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to think that he can give up his compulsion to pursue other relationships so we are in the middle of a divorce. I don't want it but don't want to live with such unhappiness anymore. Now I try to just look ahead and be able to ride this roller coaster with grace and strength.

Treatments

Couples Counseling Working / Worked

We have a wonderful counselor and use the Imago relationship therapy. It has done miraculous work in opening our eyes to each other. Yep, we're separated but our communication is open and honest and there is so much more understanding there for each other.

Forgiveness Working / Worked

I do this for me. If I can forgive him, I can move on. I have no desire to hold a grudge.

Pets Working / Worked

My furry family helps a lot. We just got two new kittens (he took our cat) and their antics always make me laugh. My 11 year old Lab/Rotweiler mix is a solid, loyal friend and even our guinea pig and rats give me smiles.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

My counselor was great for helping me be strong, find my own limits and stand up for myself. I credit her with a lot.

Reading Working / Worked

Boy I have read everything I can get my hands on and still have more to go. Yes, a lot helped, some didn't. I have recommendations for anyone who is interested.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

My family has been a terrific support. I have five brothers and sisters in the same state and they have all been at my side. My kids are also wonderful. Even my 15 year old has been helpful and loving.

Talking Working / Worked

Reaching a state of truly honest and open communication was crucial for us. Maybe it isn't always what each other wants to hear, but it's honest finally. This has allowed us to develop a friendship which never would have happened otherwise.

Time Working / Worked

Yes, Yes, Yes, and I suspect it will continue to work as more time passes.

Yoga Working / Worked

This really struck a chord in me. I love the meditative side of it and the exercise has made me feel strong and good about myself.