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Have been vey sick for the past week..... Too long to go into.......
Was going through things for recycling, storage, etc..... in spare time on break and found something, notes, from teaching that is interesting on Abraham Maslow.... He devoted much of his study to delineating the psychologically healthy person...... Had to laugh since a few have and are putting me through hell since that person threatened to blow up the last house that my ex and I sold, the Aunt accused me of a reason why a trauma ctr was having problems and sold and more ....... I'm a good person that cares.......... According to the notes I'm doing pretty good myself under the circumstances....... Still can not understand why someone would bug a teachers or beauty consultants places and sexually harrass them from placeto place after they've been hit and intwo car accidents and have a thyroid condition and still following up..... ASIDE THOUGH FROM THAT - Below are the distinguishing personality characteristics THAT MASLOW FOUND REGARDING THE PSYCHOLOGICALLY HEALTHY PERSON:
1 - They are realistically oriented
2 - They accept themselves, other people and the natural world for what they are
3 - They have a great al of spontaneity
4 - They are problem centered rather than self centered
5 - They have an air of detachment and a need for privacy
6 - They are autonomous and independent
7 - Their areciation of people and things is fresh rather than stereotyped
8 - Most of them have had profund mystical or spiritual experiences although not necessarily religious in character
9 - They identify with mankind
10 - Their intimate relationships w./a few specially loved people tend to be profound and deeply emotional rathe than superficial
11 - Their values and attitudes are democratic
12 - They do not confuse means with ends
13 - Thier sense of humor is philosophical rather than hostile
14 - The have a great fund of creativity
15 - They resist conformity to the culture
16 - They transcend the environment rather than just coping with it
I haven't been well for over a week with the ongoing pain from the car accident. Still following up wih the things from the accidents being hit twice by others. Focusing on the positives even though something isn't right and hasn't been since the year that a tree smashed through that house that my ex and I sold in Chester County near a Country Club where someone threatened to blow that house up and more after I became a victim again. One person told me that they felt sorry for me and wouldn't go into details while another was telling me that I was being sexually harrassed and more but she would not help me since she had to still live and work in Chester County. My ex was getting angry yelling at me to see a therapist or psychiatrist then someone had planted listening technologies in that house and other places so it's been ongoing. He went back to counseling to go back to some that he told me that were abusive to him and/or me or us to restart the relationships over after we separated. Then he filed for divorce. Still need to get some anwers as to why someone would plant listening devices or other at a victims place(s) and/or them to be sexually harrassed like myself a beauty consultant/music teacher/musician/vocalist that was hurt terribly in two car accidents and has been having thyroid issues and family issues again since I was forced to go back to a few after my ex told me that he had to go back to some of his abusers to restart his relationships after he beame a US citizen again (long thing) and not coming out telling me would the heck would someone have done that since the last house..I was sick with thyroid and my drs were ring out cancer... have ptsd....it's not that though right now that I'm referring to likewhen the water was on, the dishwasher, the washer and dryer and more.....I could understand if I was doing something that I shouldn't have..... It makes it hard for me past victim to get away from abusers from before when I've worked on the things.... My Aunt Joe in De Co. asked if I was going to sue the family that insures part of them, brother included ....(too long to get into here) and was accusing me of the reason why Brandywine Hospital and Trauma ctr was sold. and the ctr. was closed when I was a volunteer and helped many.... Something isn't right and it's not me.. was in two car accidents and should have been out on disability benefits and more..... I'm in alot of pain.... Maybe if an abuser had killed me or I was killed in one of the car accidents then I wouldn't have to be get so upset like any intelligent caring being about why someone or others would make a victim feel like a hostage and more from plato place..... After yrs of working on the things wth my ex, it's apparent that we were not meant to stay happy together even with working on all of the issues.... It must make a few of my abusers very happy to know that theycan get away with their manipulation and crap to their/a victim again.... Part of the system doesn't work for some victims.....If I had been a rotten person then I wouldn't give a dam about others..... I get the feeling that sometimes when you do the right things like I did for myself, my husband, now my ex and others....it was the wrong thing for a few abusers that are extremely manipulative and trying their hardest to get bak again..... My ex was ok to go back to his abusers out of necessity and to forgive them ut of his faith but my therapists and psychiatrist that originally diagnosed ptsd told me never go back..... That was after I was married and my ex had relationships with some ..... a cnical psychologist told me yrs ago that my situation with that family probably wouldn't get better since they never were willing to work on their issues and how they affected everyone in that family from years ago when we were growing up.... That dr. told me that I was the ok one since I kept working through my issues and couldn't do anything about the others since they didn't want to and/or were not going back to anymore counseling..... I resent the few that never go and keep telling me to go yet the one licked my face and is insured by a cousin thated to call me fatso......I'm sure he didn'tcall his mom and sisters that...... his sister had a bad first marriage and think she was married to a drug dealer then years ago........... Those cousins used to keep talking about the MOB...... Who the heck knows.....She's a nurse maried to a dentist now...... And moved far away....... My ex's adopted side brother had been a drug dealer and his family had issues...He went to jail yrs ago and to my knowledge no longer does that and is hapily married...... When they were having issues that family then my ex had met me and we started dating but I didn't know about alot of the things until after I was married..... The strangest things had happened...... Perhaps the police had bugged their homes and cars years ago and more - What the hell - I was a victim and I suppose they would do that to a victim with abusers...... After being on jury duty years ago on a large drug bust case in Chester Co......It made me more aware of what things were done.... Something terrible has happened and yet I was a victim again - My ex did all of the right things for him - And forced me to go back to afew of his and some of my abusers after the car accidents and more since the last house was reconstructed and had listeng technologies and more.... I should have been an ass and never let anyone know that it would bother a person or pretend to be an airhead or just BLA BLA BLA or Bitch abot everyone never goig to any counseling ever like a past friend was doing ... Of course her brother worked for the FBI - I suppose that I could have done the same things...... My sister still was telling me to go to counseling yet doesn't continue herself...... I'm sick of the things.....When good people do the right things and are forced to feel like hostages something isn't right.....
After a few were having employment issues yrs ago and were fighting each other where I kept getting promoted something terrible had happened at the house that we sold that someone threatened to blow up and more..... I did the right things and suppose that they weren't the right things for the people, the several that are the cause of the issues and problems...... What goes around will come around....... Yet if I were doing those things with them from before like not going to counseling or doing what was the right thing for me and my ex, husband then, then I would be in the same boat with them now..... I didn't know that he wasn't a US citizen theice has one then he wasn't one then he was one...... After meeting his biological mother and family from Canada and the one brother that got arrested in the US, Tony that had a huge boa constrictor for a family pet then. Something is not right my gut and senses are telling me....And I have been sick and in pain from that last accident.....Just going to continue to do what I can and stay positive... God must have better out there for me..... At least I didn't marry someone that when I first met themlike my brother and his wife the nurse told me that they didn't like each other, they had sex and then got married in the Roman Catholic Church and had niece and nephews.....They tell me to see a therapist yet don't contue to go themselves like many in all of the families and other places.... Why would you continue to date someone that you didn't like?........ I go to counseling when I can and need to ....... It's very expensive and I still can not cure their proem or issue since I'm not their issue but am having some issues as a result of what happened...... Anyone else in my situation would also have a ck of a time and feel like a hostage too or that they were in a pickle...... After so much counseling I still can not do anything else sinceI'm not the issue or problem and was forced to go back again after my ex was getting angry yet again he was the one no telling me why the hell our other house was bugged....... It's not the ptsd..... The only thing that he was telling me was that the things weren't broken you can't fix them see a psychiatrist or therapist...... WHAT THE HELL...... MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BEEN AN ASS IN ONE OF THE FAMILIES.......
I'm going to focus on the positive things and not let some wackos get me upset right now..... They would also feel like a hostage and maybe they should...... I was a victim again and I should have been a bla blaing like the other person that was yelling at me to see a psychiatrist yet bitching about everyone else yrs ago...... She never does go to counseling herself...... Maybe I was too good of a friend to years ago and also too good of a therapist to her...... We were like sisters...... when that hospital andmore was having issues and problems the strangest darn things had happened and I asked my sister, younger, what was going on and again she was not telling me......Too much.... can not go into more here...... It's very upsetting and anyone that's intelligent like myself would put the pieces together etc and want to be compensated yet the one from yrs ago told me that they that were involved with the things that had happened knew that I was a tim, a victim again and were doing what wathe best for only them..... And that I was being sexually harrassed and more and since the on still lived in Chester Co then they were not going to help me...... IT would mak anne feel likea real ASS....... especially since I wanted to spend more quality time with my husband then and an all hell broke loose,,, I feel like an ass since the things had happened.... yet maybe I cared to much about others..... Don't think that it should have been a problem......
