iris07’s Journal Entry: Journal Entry for June 24, 2007

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Hey Iris how are things today?

I will give you a little experience I went through, my wife who suffers from emotive & anxiety problems all her life, also very low about her body, no matter how many times I reassured her she was beautiful, she would go back into her insecurity. After a while it kinda got me down, in other words her ways was getting me down. I never faced up to my sensitive side I just hid them from her, because I just thought she will be back to her self in a short while, not realising this is not the way, communication is a must from both parties in a relationship,

My way of escaping confrontation, was to make excuses, but you see women are not stupid they see straight through males emotions, why? it is the fact that women are more emotively intelligent than men, (you said you hated being taken for granted) reason being they are the they the one's that give Birth, so it's instincts for women to have these emotions, they need this important skill to nurture their children. Men on the other hand are thinkers & worry, this makes them hide away their emotions, so you see iris you partner is using distraction as an escapism, he is not intending to hurt you, its deep within himself. You just have to be a little understanding to him, I know its not fair, as my dad used to say within a relationship, Two boiling pots cannot both keep their lid on one as to give.

Hope thats kinda help iris

all my thoughts to you both

AriesSam

He isn't your husband and if it hasn't been a long term relationship then it is not your responsibility to take care of him. He needs to leave get help and come back after he has worked on his issues. You are under no obligation to be his caretaker. You need to look out for you and your children first. Tell him to seek help and then you will consider continueing this relationship!

Debba

I totally agree with you Debba

AriesSam