jody0385's Journal

For anyone that is reading this, I'm not trying to brag or put anyone else down. I just want to post this for clarity and to let you guys know what I do with my time, money and myself. I believe that charity begins at home. I believe that after that you are to help your fellow man/person. After that I don't know really.. Help anyone you can. Reach out and offer support, advice assistance if you feel you have something to offer. You do this out of the depths of your heart and not for recognition or any other reason then to help. Some of us have hearts of gold that would help everyone if only we could, some of us feel compelled to help if we think we can, some of us don't.  I can't speak for anyone other then myself.

When I post here asking for help, I truelly want help. When I post here to vent I want support and I will say I'm just venting. When I post here in response to someone it is to help or offer suggestions maybe a new idea that you couldn't think of for light of being in your own world and sometimes our problems blind us from the obvious answers.

I generally post from work, so I'm clearly not here to hurt anyone in my postings. I don't waste my time like that. I'm not some teen age kid looking to start tiffs, and I just don't have the energy for it.

I am a college graduate, if that offends you, I'm sorry go to school and get your own degree. I'm not nose rubbing or nose raising by the fact that I am degreed. It's just a fact. Plain and simple. When I post I pull from my education. I am a psychology graduate. Not graduate school, just degreed. Have I Licensed in my state? No I have not. Why? Because I don't plan on being here much longer, and it's quite an expensive process to be licensed here. I don't work in my degree field and there is no need for me to be licensed here. When I move if I find somewhere I want to spend out many years of my life, then and only then will I take the steps to get licensed and spend that amount of money.

I donate my time at various places and organizations. I volunteer in several different place, several different areas of life. I do get to use my degree there, though again not licensed and not fibbing to anyone. My volunteer work is strictly volunteer and is not medically based.

I donate my money (when I can) to various places and organizations. I think a lot of people do without realizing how much they are helping. When you donate a penny to a jar on a cash register counter you ARE helping. I make donations up to $100.00 (again when I can and not in those jars but to organizations.)

I have a big heart. Do I get used for it? Yes in the past I have. Has it stopped me from having a big heart? No way! Will I continue to give when I can as much as I can? You are darn right.

Am I perfect? Heck no. Not even close. Do I have all the answers? Again a big heck no. Do I give answers? Nope I don't. I give advice and suggestions. What you choose to do with them if anything is up to you. Have I been attacked for my suggestions? Yep I sure have. Will that stop me from giving them? No way. Although it will deter me from giving any future suggestions to those attackers. Will I leave this site due to the childish actions of some of the users? Nope no way. You don't control me. I control me.

Do I get angry? Yep sure do. Do I control my anger? Yep sure do. Do I always control my anger? Nope not always. When I am alone I might throw a big ole' hissy fit. Scream and slam doors and just be down right pissed.

Do I get annoyed? All the time. I call it activity overload. When there is just too much going on around me noise, movement, stress I get very annoyed. Those are the days that I have to really watch myself to stay calm cool and collected. I learned various ways to reach the state of being calm in my schooling and in parenting classes (that I took as a 17 year old right after my son was born). Life is as easy as you make it. Life is as hard as you make it. Life may not always be what you WANT it to be, but it's all in the way you handle your situations that you are thrown into that can make it easy or hard. I choose easy. I choose easy because well just because it's EASY. That is not to be mistaken with me taking an easy way out. Sometimes the hard things are what make life easy.

I just wanted to post this for those of you that are my friends here and those of you that aren't. This is for anyone that may ever read a post I put out there in public. This is so you better understand where my suggestions come from and why I post them. This is so that when I post a cry for help you understand that I have tried all that I know, and it isn't working. Or I can't see past what is bothering me to really give what I already know a shot. Sometimes I even post things I already know the answer to just to see what the majority thinks. Sometimes it's nice to know that you're making a good decisions. And some decisions are just made alone.

At any rate, I never ever intend on hurting anyone when I post anywhere. Even if you have bugged the living daylights out of me. I might then post something very simple something very clear that could certainly be taken as offensive to you, but it's only done because in the past you have shown me reason why I need to be as simple as possible.

With all that said, I hope we are all enjoying our Thursday. We are almost at Friday which means one step closer to the weekend. For those of you that are visint loved ones for whatever reasons, enjoy your visit. Tell them how you feel about them, and have a safe trip. For those of you with other plans enjoy yourself. For those of you working... Try to squeeze in some personal time for just you. Pamper yourself, or take in a game of pool, or a little fishing trip. We all need time for ourselves. I hope you find yours.