ncnur's Journal

Hello all..Oh do I have a lot to tell.  I have had a very interesting weekend to say the least.  I can't remeber what I told you all the other day so I will catch you all up.  My son, Alex, that went to live with his father in Feb due to his father & his father's family encouraging him to be "bad."  The day I made him leave he got mad becasue I grounded him and he throw a ball across the room in anger.  His hand came down and busted Samuels lip open.  That was it, I was not going to let him hurt the other kids.  Well we had a change of custody done in Aug. Joint custody with full rights to both parnets.  His father had some pretty specific orders to keep related to my visitation, medical, acedemic, supervision of Alex etc.  He has been in "non-compliance" of everyone of the judges rulings.  I stead of co-parenting Alex with me, the mother, he co-parents with his mother, who has tryed and finally suceeded to take my son from me since he was 10 months old.  He is her only grandchild.  She is one of these outside chritians who are true demons on the outside.  My ex now lives in her rental house, on her property, rent free, so the grandmother can has complete access to my son.  She has my ex hanging by a noose and he will do anything she wants him to.  Well this weekend was my weekend with Alex.  Alex called me last week and said" Dad decided to take the weekend off and he has something planned for he and I to do."  I not his place to talk to me about change of visitation and his father needed to call me.  (why he did not take off the weekend alex was already at home is a mystery)  I think the grandmother had something going on and wanted Alex.  My ex never called.  I saw Al at his football game wens.  I told him I'd see him Fri after school.  He said ok.  I called him Thurs.  and told him I'd be there to pick him up when the bell rings and I had stuff planned for us to do.  He started yelling and saying I am not coming.  I told him since his dad never did what he was suppost to do with change of visitation I was sticking to the court order.  They encourage
Al to argue and yell at me when they want something and don't get their way.  I really puts a strain on my relationship with Alex.

So Friday, I knew something would happen.  I took my court papers to the school and went early to sign him out.  He had already left!!!!  The step mom checked him out, according to the log book, for a dr. app. at 1pm.  I was shaking I was so mad.  I talked with the police officer there, he said there was not a lot he could do becaus ethe papers were not specific enough.  i talked to Alex guidence consolor and reviewed the file on Alex.  His dad did not even put my phone number on the papers.  I live 3 miles from the school and am a stay at home mom.  He has his mother as the emergency contact!!  I got a copy of it and told everyone in the office the deal.  I came home and called my lawyer.  While I was waiting for the lawyer to call back, I called my  ex cell, no answer.  I called their house and left a message..concerned if Al was ok because kim had signed him out to go to the dr.  ( noone is suppost to take Al to the dr except his dad and I) She called me back and was like Alex told you he had plans with his dad.  I recored all of this!!!!!!  I said so you mean to tell me you lie about the dr app.  checked my son out on my visitation day.. She said yeah.  Man did I let her have it.  I told her she was there to make sure MY SON was safe, and feed..nothing more.  His raising and all decisons are to be made olny per his father and I .  There was alot of yelling ans screaming.  She made so remark..can't remeber.. but I told her to bring her fat, red headed, sorry assover her and I'd striaghten her out real quik. I know not very christian and not good caught on tape but I was so mad.  She refussed to tell me who he was with, where he was etc.  After I told her she was a free baby sitter as far as I was conserned she hung up on me.  I have a lawyer app. for Mon morning..guess God knew I couldn't be there at mom surgery so he cancled it.  I had a real hard time not doing anything about the situation.  I wanted the law to go get my child.  The lawyer said it was acivil matter and we would have my ex in the court room this week for comtempt.  I have kept a log since aug 1 of all the things done against the court order by my ex, his mom and his wife.  I spent my angered energy typing it up..7 pages with dates and times!!!  I am not playing nice little christain women anymore.  I am asking for no mercy to be given this time.  I want him to pay all fees and court cost as well as the pain & suffering I have had to deal with for the last 8 months.  I had alex for 13 yrs and we co parented.  I called my ex on a weekly basis to tell him everything going on... I faxed or copied all of al's scholl stuff.  I was too nice.  The only reason I am being treated this way is becasue his mother hates me.  Untill she got involved my ex and I were actually friend and would talk often.  My mom's ok.  My brother has not bothered us, nor tried to call and harass anyone.  I am praying about the caling his probation officer.  Even though he is a jerk and uses everyone, I hate the idea for sending him back to prision.  It would be the end of him, he'd kill himself.  I have flashbacks of the nights he held me when I was little or feed me when we had no food. 

I saved 50.00 in coupons last night.  Mom and I went to walmart.  I have never did my grocery store shopping there.  The register locked up and read..MGR assistance..coupon limit reached.  They were all puzzled, did'nt know there was a limit.

We were so tired, mom w/ her bad knees and my back, we put away the frezer & refig stuff and went to bed.  It was 1030.  Vic called me at 1130 to pick her up at school.  She was away with the drama club at drama compitition.  When she calle dshe said it would be about 20 mins before they get there, then they had to unload the bus.  I went back to sleep, I was so tired!!!!  I guess my angel woke me up at midnight and I throw on my house coat and left.  When iI got there, there was still some kids there but she was not to happy about my tardyness.  She had a goodtime.  She told me she and 3 other girls shared a room.  They had to meet in the lobby at a certain time and all decided to pee first.  Vic was last and the girl before her pooped...well vic got stuck in the bathroom.  The door jammed or something.  She said she was stuck there for about 45 mins till the hotel people got the door open.  She said I will forever and ever know the smell of Amber's poop!!!! 

Well I have a kitchen full of groceries to put awy and I am starting to feel my back telling me to get off of here.  Bye all....Val

PS.  Any advise would be appriated about Alex!!!!!!!!!!!!!