TomB's Journal

Well it's been a few days since I wrote. Had a few ups and downs since I last visited. Currently at a low point. My wife's lover's wife called me twice today... Talked for over 1 and 1/2 hours according to the timer on my cell phone. Seemed like only minutes. Got shaky after the call. R is at a point where she is trying to make a decision of trying to reconcile with her %$#%^&* husband. She gave me significantly more details that apparently were given to her by her husband. Problem is that the details match allot of the emails between him and my wife with more description. My wife has not given me all the details yet. I've asked but she hasn't budged. I called her and told her I got the call from R. She emailed me that she couldn't go on with her life if I couldn't get over this. I'm so weak from this I don't know what to do. It's now obvious to me that she hasn't been truthfull of everything. Guess I'll find out more when she gets home in a couple of hours. R says that she thinks they are currently "dormant". She says that her husband said that my wife was the aggressor in the affair. My wife has denied this in the past. I don't believe it now. Have more details that disprove he was the aggressor. I will say that I'm not hurt in my heart. I am shaky after the phone call and lost my appetite. Did get some comfort in knowing that R is hiring a PI to watch and do some back ground on her husband. R said she would call me if she found out anything that would prove our two spouses are at it again. Damb I'm down. Thought I was past this %^*&.