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Looking back at the last entry I wrote. I really sounded like a total pity pot,angry person. I didn't realize …
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Okay, I'm on a quest to stop "over parenting," to start letting my kids take some responsibility. I'm having them clean their room. They are not doing it. I would normally go in there and nag or even help them... Not anymore. I'm going to step back and see if they actually do it. When they come out, I redirect them back to their room. The clincher is going to be when they ask me for something. I'll say "Sorry, hun. I'd love to do that for you, but you haven't cleaned your room yet." Then I'll go back to what I was doing. It feels a little strange, but I think I'm on the right track.
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=) good luck!! let us know how it goes, cause this is something I need to work on too!!!
Josaphine
I am not a parent but this sounds like some healthy tough love.
pozfem
Oh the joys of natural and logical consequence. lol. Hang in there, mom!~:)
eros420
Good idea! We have actually starting removing toys, when Ann doesn't help clean. It's a short fix for a 2 1/2 years old. I have started telling her that she can't use the playroom if her room is a mess.
dorothiec
If that doesnt work. Just say, you have an hour or whatever to clean your room, if I find it stashed or crammed somewhere I will take it away. I go in much later and bag up whats not put away and take it for a while. This causes some drama but works great.
WHen they are little its best to show them how to clean their room, I teach them that toys have homes and I dont care if the toys are mixed up anymore, as long as they are in their home. What works for me is knowing what their currency is, what means the absolute most to them and be willing to make them miserable when they dont comply. When my kids are given a chore, if they complain, I give them a second chore. iF they do a lousy job I keep tacking on the chores. I dont schedule them, but that is supposed to help avoid arguments and sometimes rewards help. I hope you are doing well. I wanted to check on you. Dont expect too much from yourself right now, and expect that about 4 or so, when hubby comes home you need a kid break, something about the time frame you are in, you have to get a break from the kids even if to lay down on your bed and read a magazine, I would have snapped if I didnt have Matt do this for me, and summer is on the horizon. Maybe plan some fun events so you wont get overwhelmed, the summer may be hard. It was a nightmare the summer after Sarah died. Im not worried this year, I actually cant wait for Easter to spend some time with the kids doing fun things...zoo, parks, museums, Richmond, VA is full of culture....
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