CoffeeKid's Journal

As parents sometimes we need to say no to our children. Sometimes so we can to keep them from danger or sometimes so they can learn. But it is for the benefit of the child, because we love our children. How much more does God love us?

There have been times as a father I’ve wanted to give my children something I knew they would enjoy. But due to their actions of misbehavior or disrespect it would have been unwise. It would not have been correct to reward a child for acting in an irresponsible manner. But when the children have corrected their bad actions they receive that which I was eager to give them. There have been times when God wanted to bless me, but due to my actions he would not.

It is not easy to deny our children, because we want them to have the very best of everything. But sometimes we must deny them one thing to give them something better. I have noticed that a child who works and earns an allowance and buy something for themselves takes better care of it than if it were given to them. The same is true of lessons learned. You can tell a child how to do something, even show them how to do it, but they will remember it longer if they do it.

Often it is through the struggles that children grow in amazing ways. As parents we are there to advise, encourage and protect the child, but we allow the child to succeed or fail on their own. If they succeed, then we praise them for their achievements building on their self-worth. And if the should fail, discuss with them where they may have made an error and encourage them to attempt the task again. Do this with a sense of love building the bond between you and the child. God allows us to go through trials and struggles that we may grow stronger. But He is always right there with us in our struggles with His love. He doesn’t say it will always be easy, but it will be rewarding.

As parents we will make mistake. Especially when we think we have all the answers. When in face we don’t even have all the questions. A wise parent will always turn to God seeking His help with the family. A wise parent needs a prayer upon their lips and their hand upon the bible.

Fathers and Mothers join in prayer and reading of the bible. Your children are watching and learning where to find strength and knowledge. Don’t only tell them but show them the true source, God.

Carl A. Gooch ~ 28 April 2008