Aida's Journal

Wow, verbal abuse is insidious. Today C was with her dad and she called just sobbing. They were in church and she wasn't behaving (imagine that, a 3 year old not being quiet in a church service!), so he took her out and was going over and over what she had done wrong. Now, I understand that there are men out there who are separated/divorced and still are excellent fathers, can still deliver guidance and direction, and have control in social situations. Lately, A has seen C maybe 6 hours a week--maybe. So she's not really sure what his expectations of her are and she's used to bossing him around as she wants. So he's on the phone telling me that she's spoiled and that he's having to clean up after me because I'm not doing my job of parenting, asking me when the last time I took her out in public where she had to behave...oh dear God, He held my tongue and let me say good-bye because all I wanted to do was cuss that man out! I took C on a 6 day trip to Chicago by myself for goodness sakes and had only two meltdowns as we were delayed for 5 hours in the airport! Not to mention that we are out everyday! Ok, but the element of doubt comments like that put in my mind...he intends that. I have to use my mental energy to fight them. What I pray for is the day he has no more power over me, but as long as he as the ability to hurt her, he can hurt me...Uhg..