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What a day!!!! Sure glad my weekend was good and this evening promises to be good too. Now as for my day so far, my boss and his wife are nuts. I mean it! One day they are singing my praises the next they want to fire me for nothing. I mean I know we all can take or leave someone but seriously they are mean spirited to the max. They both have mood swings that are viscious and extreme. Last week we did a Home Show again and I always do those as the man and wife team of Bonnie and Clyde or Jekyl and Hyde(bosses) don't like doing them. So I went instead. That's fine and they seemed to be happy about it and we agreed to bank my hours so that when I wanted a day off I would get it with pay. Nice I thought. So at the Home Show I got a lot of sales, not leads, sales. I think they were very happy about it as they said " We are glad we hired you because you take your job seriously and bring us alot of business" So I thought I was doing ok.
Then......
.......today they told me they were trying to get a new product into Canada but can't because of border politics. So I said I am sorry to hear that and I do feel bad about it as this new product has a lot of potential and would sell really well here. At first I got a glare and then I got a verbal assault like no other, "Get the F** out of my office and go home you ugly f**in pig" Huh!!! What was that!?! I asked "Excuse me!?!" My tone was of surprise and I know they heard me right. They both just looked at me and said "get the f** out" I returned to my desk and sat there with my mouth wide open. I don't know what happend. So I continued on with my job and answered the phone and made the appointments as usual. Later they were asking each other what they wanted for supper. He said homemade hamburgers. I love their hamburgers so I asked if I could have one too. They often bring in leftovers the next day and tell me they brought me one too. So I thought this is the same way as before. He looked at me and said "you're a pig and too fat so drop dead" She just laughed. I am so hurt
I never did anything wrong to them and I have a great respectufl attitude toward them and my work. I take pride in my job and as far as they are concerned they told me I am what they wanted in an employee. She said last week that I bust my ass sometimes and they see an efficient employee in me. They see things I never thought they would. I come to work everyday and I am there when they go away and they said they appreciate it. They tell me they enjoy having a staff that can be reliabe and dependable to work. So why all this!?! Why all the put downs!? I mean I know they hate my body but that is a personal opinion but not related to my job. And why say things hurtful!? This has happend before so I guess my own question is why stay? I can't find a job with 40 hours a week and almost 10 dollars an hour. That's why. I have student loans to pay for the rest of my life and if I did leave I won't get a good reference they told me. I feel trapped. I can work at MacDonald's for 20 hours a week and or less for $9 a hour I suppose. I mean geez, I have a university degree for crying out loud. Makes me sick. I am looking for something else in terms of employment, this mood swing crap is something hard to take, and I'm strong willed for God's sake! Bad days are inevitable and we all have them but I don't go around taking out my bad days on anyone. I come here and vent but not take things out on people. This nonsense goes on for a week and then it's suck up time to me. They do they suck up to me. They will feel so guilty and then buy me things and say they appreciate me again and again. That's what's called the honeymoon stage of emotional abuse. I said a while back to them it is better to just cut to the chase and say they are sorry instead of buying gifts. And it goes a long way too. I told them it is so much healthier regretting a bad behaviour than just sugar coating it. They both agreed. They need help, good professional help. Jekyl and Hyde and all the emotional terrorism to go with it.
I will be ok, us strong and sensitive types survive.
Regardless, folks have a great day and take good care.
Karasal 
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Oh my god, I just can't believe that your boss and his wife treat you like that, it's ridiculous! Good on you for being ok, there's not many people that would be strong enough to survive. Wishing you lots of luck x
loza
hiya linda dont do this sorta thing but looks like you want support,so here it is from across the sea,go get a solicitor!!!!!
biffo
Oh my goodness Karasal! I have never heard of anything like this! It sounds like you are so talented and skilled, reliable and smart! I used to be a manager and I would have hired someone like you in a heartbeat and appreciated you every single day! My old workplace used to allow one of their employees to run rampant with the insults and emotional abuse, and I never understood why they allowed this, it made it so hard as I think she had a particular issue with me and spent a lot of time insulting me, so I do know how hard that is especially when you are working hard and doing a great job. Does you area not have a lot of jobs? Is it possible to commute or move to an area that does? You could probably find something easily with your skill and talents! I understand you cannot afford to quit right now but do not let this wear you down or make you feel less confident in your abilities. Hang in there!
P00hbear
Wow, they have some nerve. I can't believe anyone would say anything like that to anyone. Please don't allow them to treat you that way, that's just not right. I would definately be looking for another job. You don't deserve to be treated this way. I am sorry:)
soonergal
I am sorry that you have to go through that. I know where you are coming from. I had a job where the Dad brought his youngest son in to take over the business and he wanted new people in there so he gave everyone so much greif that he ran the secretary off that had been there for 20 some odd years away and his Uncle. I did the drafting there. Then he started on me. He kept me in tears for a couple of weeks. He had brought his wifes brother in law in and I was in the same room with them. It got so bad one Friday that the other brother came in the office where we were and wanted to know what was going on. I went home and came back Monday morning and when the brother in law came in he looked at me and said in a hateful voice what are YOU doing here. I knew I was going to catch it again. So I went and got a box and loaded up my stuff and told him that if the son thought he could do the drafting too he could. I never quit a job before but I did that one. I came back for my check at the end of the week and the brother that wanted to know what was going on apologized to me for what his family had done and said that they had started on him too so he may not be there anymore either. The thing is I loved that job until he came. But sometimes it is for the best. I think I would have had a nervous breakdown if I had stayed. It just wasn't worth it. I hope it gets better for you. I hope you are having a good weekend and a better week next week. Have a good night and sweet dreams.
browneyedchicken