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To my friends at DS.
I am blessed to have found the site, and to many that have helped me (many have come & gone), thank you from the pit of my soul for your continued words of encouragement and insight and compassion for fellow humans.
It is great to have a place where people can get one another and have an ability to offer a hand without expecting anything in return. That is selfless love and many of us had been brought together from something that wasn't in our plans for our immediate present and future, know that there's definitely brighter days ahead for all who chase freedom.
We're all very blessed to be here, on tihs site, and able to speak our minds freely and can live the life we'd always wanted, outside of the little speed bumps that slowed us down.
Now, the open highway is our path, never let anything slow you down!
Much love this holiday weekend and always.
JT
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Ugh. My son. He is a Guitar Hero king right? Well, there's this band...
They're called DragonForce. They seriously rock out and I let my son download the songs from GuitarHero since he really likes them...
Well, they're coming in concert, with SLIPKNOT on Aug. 9th.
We are going to be at a youth group church retreat that weekend!
My son clearly forgot. Well, he texted me about going, I said, we have camp, then we got into a banter, he kept typing back to me about not being fair.
I suppose he forgot that he received a D in his writing class and technically is supposed to be grounded but we'd not dealt with any real form of punishment as he's with his mother....
not to mention, I'd like to keep scary music so much like tihs away from him for at least... another year. His friends who're going are 14 & 13...
I called him after he said it wasn't fair.
I told him I will not have a bantering conversation via text about what's fair and not. The boys that invited him to go to the concert, are more than welcome to join us on our retreat.
He was sad. I told him we can talk about it more tomorrow.
What a mess.
My son, is mad at ME because his friends, (who are our faith too), but their dad is like me, but he chose to stop going to church instead of staying with it for the benefit of the children, and I'd not seen his kids in church maybe a handful of times since their divorce last year.
Granted, I know you don't need to be going to church to be all this and that, but I am not going to have my 11 year almost 12 year old at... a SLIPKNOT concert instead of a CHURCH youth camp retreat....
Is that too much to ask, for me to keep some control here over my children's lives?
(his mom told him it was o.k. to talk to me about it...)
UGH (granted the music of these guys are pretty serious and good to jam to when putting up the dumbells...) for a man, who can deal with subjective lyrical content without taking into context...
Duality
"(I push my fingers into my) eyes
It’s the only thing
That slowly stops the ache"
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Pre-teen bantering - gotta love it. (sigh). You know as parents sometimes we have to make final decisions that are not always popular. The concert with his friends would be a fun evening but not much to be garnered from it long-term except maybe a great memory and more music appreciation (with you as dad, he'll get that anyway). Church camp retreats are meant as fellowship for people who are like-minded. They will help to enhance faith, strengthen relationships (God, family, friends), plus, they are also fun. It is not like you are telling him he can't go to the concert cause you have something dreadful to do. He will be angry for a little bit but will get over it. In the long run, you are choosing to do something that you think is going to give him the greater benefit. These are tools in becoming a productive adult. Isn't that what parenting is all about? I know it is upsetting to have your kids angry with you about what they see as unfair; but in the end, it will work out.
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It sucks when you supposed co-parent makes you the bad guy. I was always the one who had to make the tough calls. Its hard being a parent when the other adult in there life is trying to be their best friend. Your kids need a parent way more then they need another friend.
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Your son will get over it. He just is trying those wings of independence. You are picking the right battles. Big hugs to you for a great 4th.
Wonderful entry JT...I couldn't agree with you more! I wish you and your family the happiest and safest holiday! Many, many love and hugs...
JoeysGirl73
This is so nice. You have made a big old dent in my heart. I am so thankful for you and all the support you have always given me. You are a good man, I have told you that so many times, but I have always meant it. LOL Have a great 4th.
phoenix7