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Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Okay, I need to vent because if I don't I am going to drive myself crazy. on June 11th I had an l4-s1 lumbar spinal fusion. They went in through my abdomen as well as two incsisions on my back about 7 inches long. The surgery went well, but they had to cut a little deeper, so my recovery has been a little slower and painful. Each day is getting better, however. I needed to do this surgery asap because I student teach in the fall, and want to feel as good as I can by then. Well, of course, my life always has drama.

One of my good friends got married saturday. I was not in the wedding, and waited until Thursday to lether know I wouldnt be coming because I still had to much pain, and cant sit in the car that long. She sent me an angry text, and I left her alone. Then, last night, I get this message from a mutual friend who was a bridesmaid.

"Krista,
This weekend was supposed to be about Abbey, but you some how managed to make it about you. I understand you had surgery and I am not trying to take that away from you. But you need to understand where I am coming from, too many things don't fit together. I have realized that this whole situation is not worth my energy or time. I have too much going on in my life to be dragged down by such negative energy. This weekend I found out things that you had lied to me about that have changed my perception of you and our friendship. I don't want to talk about this anymore because there really is nothing to talk about. You have hurt my friend and that is between you and her, but I am not going to put myself in that same situation. In time I might think differently, but right now I just feel like you were very selfish this weekend and Abbey didn't deserve to be treated like that on the most important day of her life. Please just stop texting me, and save your energy and put it towards your recovery.
Megan"

Now, they had no concern on how I was feelnig, only that I missed the wedding. SOME FRIENDS HUH? I'M SOOOOO DONE WITH THEM!!!!

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that sucks... and the girl that got married should be SOOOO much more understanding... arghhh

BloodyCries
with friends like that and that amount of negative energy you definetily do not need that right now. The less stress and the more positive energy you have around and really following Dr's orders especially wearing your brace and not bending, sweeping or vacuuming the quicker you will heal. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Best of luck to you
Hugs & God bless
Lisa

hurtingangel
Tell the bitches to call me...I will tell them both what recovery from a spinal fusion is like. Better yet...I could introduce them to a baseball bat and they could find out for themselves. What a--holes!! In case you can not tell, that makes me furious!

loiacki
Ahh, Loiacki, mia bella pamkimiccia, I am with you. It is hard to believe that anyone could be that self-centered. I'll hold, you swing. I also have a weed whacker that makes a helluva shin massager. lol. So sorry to hear, kristaroo, but these truly ain't your friends.

tirebiter888
yeah, I confess...I am Italian and everya now anda then it shows. This just pissed me off!

loiacki
You are going to find your REAL FRIENDS! How r u doing by the way? I hope you recover as fast as I am!

resges
How terrible. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Some people are just not worth it and to be honest with you, it doesn't sound to me like they love you one bit. Please take care of yourself and remember that,"a sick mind makes a sick body". Dont let all this childish bs cause you more pain and slow your healing process. Hugs and blessings.

flchristi
Since I met you here on DS, I have had a special compassion for you because you have had so much handed to you at such a young age. I feel sorry for these "friends" of yours because someday they will be forced to understand what you are going thru when they or someone else they love has to go thru it and they will reflect on their cruelty. Your experience has matured you, beyond their childlike behavior. I, too, appreciate the friendship and compassion I get here at DS. Keep your chin up, and here's to another day of healing! Hugs! :) Julie

julied
I don't see how you made the weekend "about you"..what a bummer to be in that situation, but you know what--forget about that person and move on. Easier said than done, I know, but just realize some people will never understand what chronic pain does to a person, and some will never care.

You hang in there and focus on the good stuff!

BTM