ponyboy's Journal

Well, Christa recieved the divorce papers yesterday.  I had a strong feeling she would, because I recieved an copy of the letter in the mail as well.  All she has to do is sign the Acceptance of Service and return it to my lawyer, at that point the 90 day clock starts ticking, and our Divorce should be finalized mid December.

She did call me a bit freaked out again about the wording of the count of the complaint regarding Custody. I told her again that I had been concerned about the wording too when I first read it, and called the lawyer to get clarification. I mean it sounds like I will be filing for full custody, but the custody agreement will be what she and I discussed.  The wording is just standard wording.

It must have been a cold hard dose of reality, because she was sobbing on the phone. I guess it just seemed more real with the official divorce complaint in her hands. I admit it did jar me a bit emotionally to know that she got it. But she did ask me again if I was 100% sure this is what I wanted. I tried to get across the point that I had not wanted it, but that she seems to be happy, and whether I want it or not does not matter if it is what she wants. I said are you telling me that if I said I didn't want this that you would end things with Mike and start working on resolving our marriage? She never said yes or no to that, she moved on to say she can't beleive we didn't at least try one counseling session. But when I had counseling scheduled she bailed and said she didn't want it, then when she went through a trouble spot with Mike she wanted to try counseling and I had said something like; too little too late.

We had back to school night at Bethany's school, which is also the school two of Mike's kids go to. So I dshowed up alone, then Christa and Mike showed up with Bethany and sat behind me in the auditorium. Mike's wife showed up too but did not sit near us or even get close enough to me to say anything (thank goodness). Christa had mentioned that she recieved another threat from Mike's wife that she was going to do something at the open house. But I guess it didn't happen. 

My new friend Melissa (Ben's friend's Mom) who is also going through a divorce has a daughter that is Mike's son's class, and said that Mike and Colleen were standing together in the classroom. She called me while she was walking home from the open house and we talked for about an hour.We got on the topic of diet and exercise, and it came out that it is a passion of mine and I had at one point considered becoming a personal trainer. So we talked about that for a while she asked me for some advice so I will try to help her with that . And we talked about music a little, she has tickets to see Finger Eleven in a couple of weeks and has invited me to go with her. We also talked a bit about computers, because she wants to buy a laptop for her business and asked if I could help her.  She knows that I am seeing someone so I think she really just wants to be friends which is fine. Besides if she and I were to date it would make things weird for our kids' friendship.

Anyway that is about all that happened yesterday. I think I am going to call the lawyer today to find out what is going to happen once they receive the Acceptance of Service back from Christa. I need to find out when I need to sit down with the lawyer again about the post-nptual (property sttlement) and custody agreement.