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Journal Entry for May 18, 2007
Friday, May 18, 2007

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   we all have different problems and struggles ,don't feel guilty for taking help where you can .thats what this site is for:)I'm glad that you seem more centered anyway even though your in pain.I hope you have a great evening:)

   
   

   mjadaa

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   Actually I think you just wrote it out pretty clearly on how to tell him!!!!
   "He told me over the weekend he stopped looking at the porn and stuff so I will stay and if I leave then he wants to know what was the use. He stopped for the wrong reason. He stopped to control me not to help himself."

   
   

   lost trust

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   Do what is right for you not in your heart (does it ever give us the right answer?) but in your mind. You already know, your feet just have to move. I left my first husband when he got abusive the first time (I wasn't waiting around for the second time). Then I left my second when his drinking got so bad he was charging beer on credit cards and doing brain damage to himself. Now I found a man on the internet and we've been together nine years and life is good. Not good........great! A big hug to you my friend. You sound so miserable.

   
   

   knoxgal

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   I think there are some wise people here telling you all the same thing about how to tell your husband. Just re-read what lost trust said.
   I really hope that when you make the move you will find yourself in a better place with the weight of all the husband problems off you, you'll be able to feel better about yourself.
   One question, why is it that you need to move. You did nothing wrong. Why doesn't he move. You could force it to happen if you want.
   My prayers are with you and may God help you to do what you know to be right.
   David

   
   

   andrews

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   for one thing this house has three floors and two flights of stairs. I can not keep this house up. Another thing is he works three blocks from here. Too close for my comfort. I want a new start not a daily visitor.

   
   

   brokenbody

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   Hey I had a really hard time kicking my husband out. It took me years. I was very scared, not just for me but for the kids. It has been hard emotionally on me and my husband but he, the kids, and I are doing really well right now. Once you get it done, if that is where you truely want to go you will feel so much better in a short amount of time.
   Good Luck i will be thinking about you

   
   

   juliebugs

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   the site and my puter seem to be acting up this morning - I just read this entry. Leaving or staying is ultimately your choice. There comes a point when enough is enough and I agree that from what you describe, it would appear that he is trying to manipulate you. One thing about manipulation or even controlling behaviors - they are only as effective as you permit these behaviors to be. You get one shot at life, only one. And you are the only one that defines the quality of that life. Ultimately, we are each responsible for our own choices, regardless of what the other one is doing.
   
   I do know this, after leaving three abusive marriages - even though it does get lonely sometimes - I was far lonelier in those marriages than I have ever been in single life.

   
   

   MandyB

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   just rememnber u need to what u think is right,yeah he will be hurt but think of what u r going thru now,just be strong and remember that we all are here for u
   HUGSSSSSSSSSS
   gerri

   
   

   gjones

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