nibblet's Journal

Predators...Immaturity...Rude behavior...People pretending to be something they aren't...On a recovery site?! Say it isn't so!

Maybe some of you haven't heard this saying: "You take alcohol away from a alcoholic horse thief and all you get is a sober horse thief."

Not EVERYONE on this site should be trusted immediately. Just because people are in recovery does NOT mean they are working a program. The problem is that many of us come into recovery with a little bit of a boundary problem. I get mad when people say at meetings that "everyone" in the room is there to help the newcomer...No they're not. I think these people think that they are making the newcomer feel welcomed by doing that. What they are doing is setting that newcomer up for a sober beating. Recovery is filled with the same people that you dealt with before. Let's use the example of someone you would have dealt pot to. You cut them up a quarter, go to the bathroom, while you are in the bathroom, they pinch a bit from the bag...They say, "It feels a little light...Could you weigh that again?" You weigh it and by God! It IS light! So you give them more...And what does that person do.

They smile...And they act like YOU were the one trying to rip THEM off. That guy smiling was me.

Not everyone in recovery is your friend. You should use the same amount of common sense you would use in the real world here. If someone were to come up to you and say, "I'm a surgeon!" would you say, "Oh good! I have this appendix I would like removed. How soon can you cut?"

No...You would want to see proof, credentials, maybe even some referrals or a second opinion. Ask for nothing less in recovery. I could tell you I was a small hispanic boy that lived in Queens with a rat named "Highboy" and a sister with three legs...But just because I say it doesn't make it true.

I feel that not feeding any of the drama, or troll or whatever you want to call it blogs. I think it has been said before that, we should use what we know, which is kill them with kindness. We really don't know what people are what, or who they are. But, we do know no matter what that everyone is sick here, and needs help.
I feel that on the flip side that so many are out for a witch hunt, that it makes it uncomfortable as well. When so many are out to judge and throw stones. I was one that fell for it, so all of you that want to say "it happened before" trust me I know! But, that isn't going to make me stop trying to see the best in people first, and help. Then if by God's will things don't work out for them here, I say, prayers to them and I am sorry. I do know if they get nothing but, kindness and they are really, really sick and want drama.....and they don't get it, they will go somewhere else where they can find attention.