Just when I think I am out they pull me back in.
So I have not written here in some time because I was hoping to have some thing good to write about. I wish I could …
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Ok I was told almost 16 months ago by every lawyer I talked to that this was a simple case and it should not be a big deal. Then on May 8th we finally made it to court we had a settlement and the judge said she granted the disolution of the marriage. The ex, as I thought she was, was all smiles as we walked out the door and wanted to know if she could get a check. My lawyer says don't see why not. I shook hands with my lawyer and thanked him, he said all that was left was to sign the final paper work and we were done. We had a deal all was good in the world and I was walking on air. Then flash forward almost two months, I discover her lawyer never did the paper work as agreed, she has fired him and found a new. The first one was just stupid but this one is just plain crazy. Wants me to keep her on my medical and say she is now in debt to the tune of $45,000. States that her living expenses are just under $3500 a month and that she can't afford to pay her bills. Also she now wants to stick me with some of her debt again after she said she was not going to do that. The paper work also says that my youngest son is living with her, when in fact he is not. So I guess you can file a motion and put any thing in it you want and hope that a judge will believe you. Lets not forget that when we in court last we wer both sworn in and we both said we understood and agreed to the settlement.
Mean while my spousal support has not been reduced and I am still paying her medical insurance. Oh and my legal fees are now around $9000 and I am still not divorced. We are not even divorced yet and she is taking me back to court.
So I have spoken to her and she says she is not doing well because she decided on her own to stop taking all the drugs she was taking, well of course that did not work and now she is in a bad way. Says from time to time she sees this was a mistake and indicated that she would like to reconcile, WTF. Its like if she can't have me, then she is just going to hold on to me forever. I don't know how much more I can take, I have just wanted it to be over for so long and it never ends.
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Oestonee
Again I ask why is it so eay to marry and takes an act of god to get divorced????????? Because my ex has told his lawyer he wants to reconcile my lawyer wants 2000 by sept 1st because he dosen't think he will get paid and I'm working my ass off to come up with the money. So you are preaching to the choir
smaguire
I'm sorry-it's not fair, but one day you will be free.
AloneinUtah
What a nightmare, I don't understand how she can reneg on an agreement. Sorry this is such a mess.
solongbye
You need to get real tough with your lawyer, judges do not like to have their time wasted. If the judge gets wind of this, he will put a stop to it. You need to start yelling and demanding this stop
MaryC2
I don't know what to say except that I'm sorry. This IS becoming the never ending story.
sc2kids4me
why does it seem when you finally accept that this is what's best, that it takes forever to happen? i'm so sorry wickie-poo ... what a freaking pain! talk about a serious celebration when it finally is over!!!!!!!!!1
JoeysGirl73
Boy what a drawn out nightmare! I feel for you.
Your story didn't make mine look too bad afterall despite what I've been through. I can only hope I don't have it linger like yours as I am ready for my night and time of terror has ended! See my journal as it might make you feel somewhat better maybe! I get to live with mine the rest of my life.
RobinL2008
OMG, well if she dies or gets married you shouldn't have to pay spousal support.
that should give you a reason to go to church again
paradox63