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OK on May 8th I completed my goal and I was divorce it was over a year in the making but the judge said she granted the disolution of the divorce. Court orders had been filled out and signed by both parties, I thought I was done. WRONG, there was the slight matter of the judgement being filed. Well long story short that never happened and I am still married to the sucubus. For those of you who don't know a sucubus is a demon from hell that comes to earth and sucks the life out of a man. Today I had to go back to court and after 2 hours it was decided that my support should not be $500 a month down from $918 but $750 going back to August 1st and her Dr has until November 20th to get her ready to work and employed. So I go back to court on November 20th meaning it will be almost 2 years and I still will be married to the thankless using, lazy bitch. I am so pissed right now its not funny, I just want to be done, no body talk to me about justice because there is none in this god forsaken world.
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Ok I was told almost 16 months ago by every lawyer I talked to that this was a simple case and it should not be a big deal. Then on May 8th we finally made it to court we had a settlement and the judge said she granted the disolution of the marriage. The ex, as I thought she was, was all smiles as we walked out the door and wanted to know if she could get a check. My lawyer says don't see why not. I shook hands with my lawyer and thanked him, he said all that was left was to sign the final paper work and we were done. We had a deal all was good in the world and I was walking on air. Then flash forward almost two months, I discover her lawyer never did the paper work as agreed, she has fired him and found a new. The first one was just stupid but this one is just plain crazy. Wants me to keep her on my medical and say she is now in debt to the tune of $45,000. States that her living expenses are just under $3500 a month and that she can't afford to pay her bills. Also she now wants to stick me with some of her debt again after she said she was not going to do that. The paper work also says that my youngest son is living with her, when in fact he is not. So I guess you can file a motion and put any thing in it you want and hope that a judge will believe you. Lets not forget that when we in court last we wer both sworn in and we both said we understood and agreed to the settlement.
Mean while my spousal support has not been reduced and I am still paying her medical insurance. Oh and my legal fees are now around $9000 and I am still not divorced. We are not even divorced yet and she is taking me back to court.
So I have spoken to her and she says she is not doing well because she decided on her own to stop taking all the drugs she was taking, well of course that did not work and now she is in a bad way. Says from time to time she sees this was a mistake and indicated that she would like to reconcile, WTF. Its like if she can't have me, then she is just going to hold on to me forever. I don't know how much more I can take, I have just wanted it to be over for so long and it never ends.
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Sorry sweetie..... wish I could fix it for you.
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Again I ask why is it so eay to marry and takes an act of god to get divorced????????? Because my ex has told his lawyer he wants to reconcile my lawyer wants 2000 by sept 1st because he dosen't think he will get paid and I'm working my ass off to come up with the money. So you are preaching to the choir
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I'm sorry-it's not fair, but one day you will be free.
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What a nightmare, I don't understand how she can reneg on an agreement. Sorry this is such a mess.
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You need to get real tough with your lawyer, judges do not like to have their time wasted. If the judge gets wind of this, he will put a stop to it. You need to start yelling and demanding this stop
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I don't know what to say except that I'm sorry. This IS becoming the never ending story.
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why does it seem when you finally accept that this is what's best, that it takes forever to happen? i'm so sorry wickie-poo ... what a freaking pain! talk about a serious celebration when it finally is over!!!!!!!!!1
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Boy what a drawn out nightmare! I feel for you.
Your story didn't make mine look too bad afterall despite what I've been through. I can only hope I don't have it linger like yours as I am ready for my night and time of terror has ended! See my journal as it might make you feel somewhat better maybe! I get to live with mine the rest of my life.
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OMG, well if she dies or gets married you shouldn't have to pay spousal support.
that should give you a reason to go to church again
I was listening to this song yesterday and it just sort of hit me that it really sums be up except for the part where it says I would do it all again, have to say I would not. I think I have posted this before but some times Ozzy's words are perfect.
I was looking back on my life
And all the things I've done to me
I'm still looking for the answers
I'm still searching for the key
CHORUS
The wreckage of my past keeps haunting me
It just won't leave me alone
I still find it all a mystery
Could it be a dream?
The road to nowhere leads to me
Through all the happiness and sorrow
I guess I'd do it all again
(Not)
Live for today and not tomorrow
It's still the road that never ends
CHORUS
Ah ah
The road to nowhere's gonna pass me by
Ah ah
I hope we never have to say goodbye
I never want to live without you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DaQScjyeZ6M
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The road to nowhere is not going to pass you by-unless you let it. Get up off of that Ass, get out, invite people over, and make that house of yours-belong to you!
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AIU gave some good advice I suppose, but of things I've not idea about.
I find myself in a quagmire at times, of what to do, and how to keep plugging forward. It's like exercise, you get on routine, things are great, you get off, you have to start all over again. Best thing to realize is to never stop starting over. Setbacks are just that, setbacks, they don't define you nor control your destiny.
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Amazing how the lyrics of a song can really relate to what is happening in one's life.
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Wow I like AloneinUtah, she needs to come kick my ass, can I borrow her?
Just keep moving forward, you've made so much progress already.
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Oh stop already, you are a great guy, a great person. You know that.....you have strength of charcter, morals, values, and a great sense of humor. Yea, life throws us some curve balls, and sometimes we have to step back and review things, but you know who you are, and you are GOOD. Now, hurry up and heal, and you will find someone who has been in a simular situation and you will find happiness. When you are ready. Love ya, Mary
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So sorry sweetie. You need some closure... this has been going on way too long.
Oestonee
Oh Wick, that BITES big time...I'm sorry.
nicegal1
Gosh, I'd be sick. Come of think of it, your story did make me sick for you.
What a horrible thing. Gosh, think what would of happended if you and gone out there and got married the same month. You'd probably be up on charges for having two wifes on that. Lordy be!
RobinL2008
Karma Wick.... Karma! I know it takes time, but it does happen! Big hugs buddy!
Lady1975
Hey right there with you I filed for divorce in october of last year the court told me that I had to serve him the papers before it could be submitted to court I wanted to have him served by sheriff because I knew he would not sign for a certified letter from me. They said I had to send one first anyway. When I sent it the post office notified him and he refused to pick it up and he hired a asshole lawyer and he had me served by sheriff. Now because he had me served and he filed first I'm screwed. He has decided that he dosen't want a divorce. So I have to pay 5000 for a lawyer for a divorce case that is going to be dismissed and I will not be divorced. If I want to get divorced I will have to rehire a lawyer at another 5000 and start all over. I am a single mom of 2 kids which I am supporting completely on my own on less then 1000 a month. He has not been ordered to pay support and it has been a year because he claims he is not working and not recieveing any money. He brings home over a 1000 a week but has put all financial aspects of his buisness in his sons name so it can't be traced back to him. So believe me I know where you are coming from I will not be divorced this year and I probably won't be divorced next year either. Here's to you wick.
smaguire
WTH? How long do you have to pay her alimony? I agree there is no justice, in my case either. Sucks that the cheaters end up winning. I'm sorry Wick.
solongbye
Eh Robin there is no way in hell I even thought about getting married right now. I do want some one in my life but I am not even close to getting married right now. Besides it takes time to draw up a pre-nup.
Wick
The only thing worse than divorce is seperation!!!
Or perhaps marriage to the wrong person.
patti22
sorry fella, anything moving on the divorce or still waiting til nov
msde
You know my philosophy: Deep breaths my friend. Deep breaths.
Virnita