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So my Mother's Day was pretty crappy, see, normally I wouldn't make mention of it one way or another because we aren't heavily into holidays at my house unless it's for Ian's sake (Christmas, his B-day, Easter and such) So, our B-Days and Mother's and Father's day we may give each other a card or something but we think everyday should be like Mother's Day or a birthday or whatever, but..........I have a different Mother in my house now, don't I!!??
So, the day b4 I went to Target (my favorite store in the whole world!) and she tagged along, I got her about $5 worth of little things and she said that was all she wanted for Mother's Day. Well, that's what she said.....
The next day my FIL wanted to take Michael, Ian and I to the Renaissance Faire-not for Mother's Day, just because...we had never been and wanted to see what the fuss was about.
So we went, I didn't care for it but whatever, Ian was really good and seemed to enjoy himself.
When we got home I went and got $10 flowers for my MIL who lives next door, and a card for my Mother. I don't care for my MIL either but with her that close we got to keep the peace, Michael didn't call her or anything, I just walked the flowers over.
So my Mother had a fit that she didn't get to go to the fair and she didn't get flowers etc...
Was I supposed to invite her on my FIL's dime? It was $25 a person to get in! Whatever, I said, I'll return all the food I bought to keep you alive and get you flowers even though you said you were happy with what I already got you, she played the guilt card- "You never know how many Mother's Days a person has left...." c'mon-she's 58 and going strong-healthier than me!!!
So now everyone's uncomfortable at my house-not a way to live, I just want my own life back the way it was-no drama, no BS!!
Still waiting for the Humira to get approved and stuff, really sore in the meantime...
Love you guys
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I'm soooo sorry to hear about your Mother's Day. It's hard when someone wants to be included and you're not the one paying. You did the right thing, it wouldn't have been right to ask your mom to join you. Sure hope the Humira gets approved and that it helps. Hugs, Dawn
Dawn2
Don't let her play that guilt trip on you JJ. She is not worthy of your love and affection and kindeness, I repeat KINDNESS! That was nice of your FIL and it wasn't up to you if she was invited or not, so there! You have to stop letting her stress you out. Put it to her this way...for her everyday is Mother's day because you have taken her in. Besides what did she give you, besides a crappy mothers day? You are a mom too and a great one at that. You are responsible to your son and husband and as for your mom she is left to her own devices as far as I am concerned. I love you bunches and you can come to my house anytime and I will treat you like the royalty that you deserve! Love ya sweet pea, Auntie M
bizemomm
You know you dont deserve all of this nonsense. Dont ya just wanna scream when grown adults want to act like twn year olds and your little one is acting like an angel? Mothers Day is about YOU being the AWESOME mother YOU ARE!! Did ya think about that one? Its about You your hubby and that adorable little guy you have! Dont let that woman make her issues yours!!! Thats her Sh*t pile tell her to keep it to her self. Ive had this conversation all too many time with my counselour about my mom and grandma! Dont even let them push their guilt YOUR way. They are adults and should act like it. What my counselour said is for example your mother was upset she didnt get to go to the fair, Just give her feelings right back to her and say, oh im sorry You feel that way. That way your making them responsible for their feelings and pushing it right back to them. Or oh this must really be upsetting for you. This always makes it about them and not you. Or oh, this must really be confusing for you and just walk away. It might really piss them off and get them thinking also its not on YOU anymore. Hope this makes sense, Its hard to explain when your typing. But ive been practicing and it has worked wonders. Also some things ive learned on the codependency support group. Im sorry this is alot of tesion for you, you just try to focus on you little blessing Ian they grow too quick. It was nice of your FIL to take you out glad you had fun doing that. BIG HUGS!!!
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