My oldest daughter called me tonight and boy does she love the drama, she thought she was going to get a rise out of me I did not give her the satisfaction. First off she was accusing me of saying and plotting with her ex-husband about getting all grandchildren together with oldest grandson’s other brothers. I think it would be nice for Michael to have all of his siblings together and I can see why he would want that. Then she tells me my head is…oh never mind about that one. I know what is going on. Now this is where this is turning into a true rant! Oh hell I am just plain mad and I need to get this out so I do not explode! Sorry but I am ready to do just that and what you are about to read is not the typical way I feel but I just cannot shake this feeling! She wanted to tell me she had met her other sister. You see she was conceived while I was still in HS and the sperm donor left the picture actually I walked away. No I ran away in fear for my life, he had beat me numerous times and attempted to strangle me often beating me in front of his father. I ran the day a dear childhood friend was killed. The sperm donor was jealous that I was upset that my friend had just died he grabbed me and took me out of a restaurant by my hair. He was am idiot and took me to my mom’s house I made up a lie as to why I needed to go there and he stayed in car and I never went back to him in the car. I moved to Tennessee along with my family we had other family living there so it was easy to do so. The sperm donor never came by or called me he knew where everyone lived in TN and when I moved back to IN he saw me and my daughter and never attempted to see her of give any support. So I met my husband the children’s father and he raised Lyunde as his daughter even adopting her. He did sweet things taking her hot lunch to school everyday and all of those Girl Scout things and then she does this. She has contacted her other half brothers and sisters like they had been together since childhood even saying I now have a little sister. She has one and she has the same parents as you do and cries because you are hurting. Now my oldest child who after trying as hard as possible to get on Jerry Springer( she did make it to Jenny Jones one time- a horrible day in my life) she is now going to settle on Maury. Going to do DNA tests to see if all of these proclaimed offsprings of this ASS are really brothers and sisters. Now here is the adding insult to injury and what I am trying not to let get me too worked up. After her son was born she went to see her biological father and did not let her dad know I thought this was very insulting to her dad. I was okay with me until she came home and begun to tell me what he had said about our relationship, he never hit me and if he did he blamed it on being diabetic. In essence he made himself out to be a trampled on dad whose child had been taken away from him. Then the ass died before I could set him straight. I never got the chance to defend myself not did I get the chance to give the BASTARD THE ROADMAP to HELL! He almost killed me and my daughter ,and she believes him still to this day along with his father who had another sappy excuse for not stopping his son from hitting me. Oh yeah they promised her the farm, a nice chunk of IN farmland but by the time the rest of her new found white trash family get their part she will still not have much. I feel better now got that out of my system, I do not think I will sleep since i am still mad and shaking anytime something reminds me of him and his beatings I get scared all over again.
Christ girl... you just keep getting beat down by this one dont you..sigh... perhaps it is time to set down some rules for this one... are your parents still alive?? is so..tell her that it is time that she goes and speaks to them..or another relative that happens to know what was happening back then... if she still decides that she does not wish to believe anything that you try to tell her...than tell her that your glad she has found the new side of the family... eventually someone will let it slip what the true colors her father really had hon..make no mistake... you can only hide it for so long...trust me.. i have learned that...grin.. we had the same issue with my ex's sister.. my boys are now developing a relationship with her... due to the crap he told her....the boys had not seen her in over 6 years... her and i chatted on the phone one nite...and straightened it all out...she believed me...and we went on from there.... it is slow going...but going well...
next on to your daughter... how much longer do you put up with the abuse..sigh...
their is a distinct difference of being there for your daughter and being verbally and emotionally abused every time she calls you...
which is what she is doing to you hon... you must realize that my now...
set some limits if you are able... tell her that you love her..always will,,,and that you will always be there for her if she needs you...but no longer will you tolerate the abusive phone calls... you dont have to..nor do you need to...it is no good for your health...it is not helping you.... you still have a young daughter at home to raise who needs you and your attention...
you have been abused alot in your life hon...physically etc...you have to put a stop to it... you can still be there for your daughter...but be there for her on your terms.. not hers where she feels that she can call you up..abuse you on the phone and then hang up leaving you an emotional wreck...
and plese dont feel scared anymore... he is gone...he cannot touch you anymore hon.. your safe now.. it is just the verbal abuse we have to erase from your life now...
luv
heather
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