Journal Entry for June 21, 2008
June 21, 2008 11:31pm
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About Me
I am a self employed father of two perfect daughters. They live with me 70% of the time. They are aged 5 & 7. My purpose and my passion are my girls at this time. I have to make sure they get through this tough time with as few emotional scars as possible. I believe in old fashioned Virtues... like Honesty, Integrity, Pride, Honor & Justice. Seeking like minded individuals for support. Being alone night after night can be difficult at times. I will survive and thrive because I Love Myself!
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Intelligent conversation, Entrepreneurship, Amusement Parks, Orlando Area Florida, Long Walks in the Woods, Doing Dishes(lol I seem to clear my head best while doing dishes weird eh), Golf, Swimming. Movies(only good ones lol) I Love Art & Romance! Passionate Exciting People that THINK! I would LOVE to talk to anybody that uses their OWN mind to make decisions and stands up for what is right ALWAYS! I DO! Are there any truly "Intellectual" individuals left on earth? :(
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Reflection - Hurt & Happiness
April 7, 2008 1:51pm
Yesterday was a crazy day emotionally for me. Some lows.... some highs... fortunately the day ended on a high note!
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Close Infidelity
Hi, I am Single father with custody(70%) of two young daughters. She left physically Apr 4 2007 to be with her boyfriend. Our relationship was over when she started her affair at work in 2005. I forgave her, tried hard with counseling to make it work. It was too late, she had already moved on emotionally. I have moved on from the loss of the relationship. I am finding it difficult some days to be alone night after night and raise the girls on my own. I have no family or friend support.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- Helped me alot. I learned a lot about myself & the errors I had made in our relationship PRIOR to her affair. She did not open up at all therefore it did not work for her.
- Divorce Considering
- I truly don't think the divorce being final will change anything. Marriage is a "state of Mind" not a piece of paper.
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- Absolutely the most important thing for me was to forgive her. I did not begin to honestly feel happiness and joy again until I forgave her. She did not have the affair to hurt anyone. She just made a bad choice. We all make them from time to time. Some choices we make are worse than others. :)
Close Breakups & Divorce
Hi, I am Single father with custody(70%) of two young daughters. She left physically Apr 4,07 to be with her boyfriend. Our relationship was over when she started her affair at work in 2005. I forgave her. I tried hard with counseling to make it work. I have moved on from the loss of the relationship. I find it difficult sometimes to be alone night after night. Raising the girls on my own is tough but I love it. I have no family or friend support.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- Loved going to therapist. Helped me a lot. She did not open up at all and really did not want to save the relationship. If you don't want to get better or save a relationship counselling will NEVER work.
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- Absolutely the most important thing for me was to forgive her. I did not begin to honestly feel happiness and joy again until I forgave her. She did not have the affair to hurt anyone. She just made a bad choice. We all make them from time to time. Some choices we make are worse than others. :)
- Reading Working / Worked
- I read a book titled "After the Affair" without that it would have been much much more difficult. Great Book. I recommend it to all that have experienced Infidelity on both sides.
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Only have my Mother to talk to on phone. All our friends and family were hers and they all left when she did.
- Support Groups Considering
- Thinking about Parents Without Partners. Any feedback on this organization.
- Time Working / Worked
- Each and everday I have learned to love myself and be confident about who I am more. I am still and always will Passionate about life and people!
Open Single Parenting
Hi, I am Single father with custody(75%) of two young daughters. She left physically Mar 2007 to be with her boyfriend. The relationship was over when she started her affair at work in 2005. I forgave her, tried hard with counseling to make it work. In counseling she said "I need more than a husband and children". I have moved on from the loss of the relationship. I am finding it difficult somedays to be alone night after night and raise the girls on my own. I have no family or friend support.
Open Healthy Sex
It's been awhile since I had any sex... other than with myself. But I only enjoy healthy sex and have never had unhealthy sex.
Open Diets & Weight Maintenance
Have roller coastered up and down in weight most of my life. Came to the realization that I ate too much and used food for comfort whenever I was unhappy with my life. I have lost 75 lbs since last April. Not exactly where I want to be yet but close. I am working on not "seeing" that fat guy still, when I look in the mirror. Good luck to all!
Treatments
- Eating Healthier Foods Working / Worked
- Cut out almost all junk food... except chocolate LOL
- Eat Less Working / Worked
- Ate smaller portions.
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