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Tuesday, November 6, 2007

This has been such a shitty day. My mother died in May of '06. Her estate still is not settled and it's becoming a nightmare for me as executrix. I have one younger brother and one younger sister. The three of us are fighting like cats and dogs. One would think there's a lot of money involved. Wrong. She had very little. The problem is that she sold her house and then she and my sister, who's single, bought a house together. Unfortunately my mother never changed her will, so it read that her former house was to be divided amongst the three of us. My sister wants to now assume the mortgage on the house they bought together and that's fine but her credit sucks and she's bi-polar and can't seem to hold a job for long. Plus, even though she paid for half of the downpayment, she couldn't get a mortgage and only my mother's name is on the mortgage.

Our lawyer is going crazy trying to get paperwork from my sister and look out for my brother and my interests. It is such a mess I'm ready to throw in the pens and forms and say the hell with it all.

How did it ever come to this mess. My mother must be rolling in her grave.

Need a cup of tea. Till later ...

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Oh Marti, I'm so sorry. It sounds like a mess. I think unless there were keep sakes I wanted for personal reasons, I'd throw in the towel too. I don't want anything my parents have when their dead. I want to know they care about me and my children while they are here. Money doesn't show that, but sometimes when your sick and can't work and your children need things it would be helpful. But I will gladly give over their home and land to my siblings than deal with all the headaches. All that stress can cause you to do worse. You need to remember your health for your own children and sweet Sophie. maybe your sister will see the light and realise she can't take all this on with her disorder. And a cup of tea sounds good, I havent had one in awhile, I'm a coffee drinker, but I love tea. I really live the lemon and honey.

bonster
Thanks Bonnie, your support and love means a lot.

GrammieP
Marti, I've been through something very similiar. Unfortunately it involved a lot of money and my very evil uncle. He hated me because my grandparents loved me so much. Turns out he bullied them into changing their trust, my dad died many years ago, and putting him in charge. He promised he'd take care of me. My Grandma died and he stole all the jewelry she wanted me to have...I have a pair of her socks and a perfume bottle I stole when he wasn't looking. (My grandparents lived in Hawaii.) My uncle moved my Grandpa back here, and kept him prisoner. Long story short, I would get calls from him to help him, my Mom and I were working on getting him away. He was healthy and strong and he died. My uncle killed him. Money makes people crazy. I can't write anymore...I thought I was over this, my grandparent raised me...nobody loved anyone more than they loved me...and me them. Don't let this destroy your family.

feisty
I remember when my Grandfather died, after the funeral all the kids and grandkids and great grandkids went to the house and (some, not all) started fighting over stuff. I went in and found a poem that I had written to him and my grandmother (she had died years ago) years before and left with all the treasure I needed. I just want to remember the great man that he was. There was nothing there that could bring them back and my memories were all I needed to be happy. I am sorry you are having issues with this, I hope you can find a way to find peace with it all.

TexasMS
Thank you all. My sister suffers from mental illnes and I walk on eggshells to keep her calm and take care of her the best I can. That is part of the problem. I can no longer do that as I can barely take care of my self and my Hon. I yelled at her yesterday about getting paperwork to the estate's lawyer and since then she has done nothing but spew anger and her imaginary scenerios at me. I don't need this crap and I have told the lawyer to do whatever it takes to get this over and done with. There is no money involved just the house, which both my brother and I gave up our thirds to her. We have houses and we thought it would be a good gesture to give it to her. But that doesn't seem to be good enough. Ugh!!!!! Again, thank you for letting me air my dirty family laundry. love you all

GrammieP