PowerlessOverThis’s Profile

Close Families & Friends Of Addicts

I'm a clean & sober person who met a man when he had just completed a 1 yr. treatment program. I had no experience whatsoever in dealing w/addicts. I was in the process of getting a divorce and he had a girlfriend. We became really good friends & he remained sober for over 3 yrs. He and his girlfriend (he was w/ while on dope) didn't have much to hang on to so they split up. My divorce was finalized a week before he relapsed. All it took was a moment of bad judgement and now it's a mess.

Treatments

Patience Too Soon to Tell

I'm actually out of patience. It's been an emotional roller coaster of mostly lows. There is a residential treatment center that is willing to take my BF in IMMEDIATELY. The door is WIDE open. But he refuses to go. Says he isn't ready yet. I think he will run out of these God-given chances. Sad.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

Talking with his family, who have been through this before (with him) has helped me. His now sober friends that he met in the program 4 years ago, have been my source of strength as well. He has been using for almost 22 years of his life. He is now 40. I sometimes avoid calls from his family because I am tired of always giving them sad updates on him. They have given me lots of advice and they love me very much. They even call me his "angel." I just wish I had the strength to do more.

Writing Somewhat Helpful

It helps to write things down in my journal when I am feeling very emotional. I sometimes write my BF letters telling him how I feel since he isn't always willing to talk face-to-face about this subject. If he is sober enough he will read the letter and open up to me, verbally. Sometimes I just write the letter but then I don't give it to him. I just write it to get my feelings onto the pieces of paper.