irenesenkubuge’s Profile

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Child

my first child on the 14th of March 2008, i was operated when i was 7 months pregnant, and my Baby stayed in the incubator for 1 week and passed away, but i have tried to get over, i am thru the mourning period alone, it is hurting so much. i am doing my level best but it is hard, like one parent said, people who have not gone through it find it easy to give comments such as "THAT WAS JUST A BABY COME ONE GET OVER", "WE HAVE LOST PEOPLE THAT ONE IS NOT THE FIRST TO DIE NEITHER IS HE THE LAST"

Treatments

Crying Somewhat Helpful

My Mother said whenever i feel like crying for my Baby, i should do it, and it is helping abit, i mourn when i think of him, when i go to his grave, when the operation is really itching and aching, i get headaches, i hurt more abit.

Helping Others Somewhat Helpful

Yes i help to counsel people talk to them, and we share ou experiences, that really helps abit, coz it helps to know that you are not alone, like now how i am hurting. But thanks to all daily strength crew, i am really happy

Music Somewhat Helpful

Gospel Music, but sometimes when you concetrate it hurts alot you get lots of memories and cry.

Prayer Working / Worked

Prayer is helpfull, it gives hope, inspiration, you see that you are not alone, and sometimes you get to know that God had a reason, it works, When i hurt again, it hurts, i sometimes think that may be i am not praying so much and that is why it seems like my prayers are not answered.

Reading Working / Worked

Readin inspirational books, prayer books, prayer sites like www.mountainwings.com, www.dailystrength.com

Remembering Working / Worked

Whenever i visit his grave, it helps alot i feel attached i talk to him, i feel sad when i am leaving like i have left him alone.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

This helps, i have my Auntie who has lost three children, i always call her to give me advice, friends have been there

Talking Working / Worked

Talking helps alot

Time Working / Worked

i am taking one day at a time, but still this is the pain we have to learn to live with till the day we join our children, but it is one day at a time