I had to work really early today. I usally get a chance to watch Joel Olsteen before I go to work on Sundays but I had to in at 6:30 so I missed it. His ministry usally sends me off on a positive note. Since I got off early I was able to make it to the cemetary before it closed. I took flowers and a few Easter decorations to my husband and nephew as they are near each other. Thursday I'm off and its my birthday and our Wedding Anniversary so I will spend the day with him. He used to joke and tell people if he forgot my birthday or our anniversary now he'd really be in double trouble. Of course he never did. I have to say I'm so greatful he no longer is in pain but MY GOD I MISS HIM SO MUCH!!!!!
Happy Birthday. Your husband is so lucky to have you to care for his memeory. Now take some time and care for you.What would your husband do to help you with a loss. Then do that for yourself. I bet he took better care of you than you take of your self. I know that is so true for me. I would make dinners for him. For me a sandwich is fine. I would clean house for him. Picking up the newspapers is fine for me. Now with Ray's ashes home i feel I need to start taking care of me. and our home. Both of my kids were surprised by all the yard work I have done. I dont like it but it is nice to step back and see how much better eveything looks.
We are allowed to miss them. And cry for our loss. My eyes are so swollen from too much crying today. They were loved. They were special and we are special just being a part of the relationship. I honestly dont think Ray could have coped as well as I have. I know he wouldnt have had the support I have. He was a very quiet guy and just had a few wonderful friends. I have friends in evey class i have taught.
The yard work is catching up with me I am falling asleep.
Have sweet dreamss
Take care
Becca
BeccaR
Thank you, and your right, my husband often told me that I'm always doing for everyone but me I think its a mom thing its in our blood. HaHa Good Night
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