bruises’s Profile

Open Child Support & Custody

I have full custody of my daughter. Her mother has visitation rights, but is currently not in the picture and will hopefully stay away.

Open Single Parenting

Single parent of six-year-old girl. I do have a great support net though, including one boyfriend that she calls her other daddy.

Open Single Dads

My daughter's mother is not taking any part in raising her. I do have steady longterm boyfriends, but I don't expect them to take parental responsibilities.

Open Gay Parenting

I have three boyfriends, and am the father of a six-year-old girl.

Open Gay Men's Challenges

I'm pansexual, currently in gay relationships.

Open Bisexuality

Pansexual, really.

Open Transgender

I cross dress at times. More so when I was younger, but I still make a cute girl.

Open Coming Out

Been out for pretty much all my life.

Open Gay & Lesbian Teens

No longer a teen, but I might still be able to give advice.

Open Teen Sexuality

I was very sexually active as a teen. While I'm now past the teenage years, I might still be able to give advice.

Open Families & Friends of Gays & Lesbians

I have a lot of gay and lesbian friends, and I'm not exactly straight myself.

Open Families & Friends Of Addicts

I'm a former addict, as are my boyfriends.

Treatments

Patience Working / Worked

Always needed.

Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful

Depends on the therapist and a bunch of other things.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

Open Smoking Addiction & Recovery

I had my first cigarette when I was very young, and was smoking regularly by the time I was ten. I've been trying to kick it for a few years now, but I relapse and have one whenever I'm stressed out. I don't consider myself a smoker anymore though.

Treatments

Cold Turkey Working / Worked

It feels like crap, but it works.

Hard Candy Somewhat Helpful

Helps to keep my mouth busy.

Willpower Working / Worked

I'm the one in charge of what I put in my mouth.

Open Alcoholism

My father was an alcoholic and I followed in his footsteps. I was drinking quite a bit at a young age, and had my last drink on my 21st birthday. Last massive drinking episode happened the Christmas before that though, and that's when I decided I really had to deal with it.

Treatments

12 Step Program Not Working

I have personal disagreements with pretty much every single step.

AA Meetings Not Working

Court and therapy ordered. Their cult-like ways did absolutely nothing for me.

Cold Turkey Working / Worked

Sleep Somewhat Helpful

Works occasionally.

Willpower Working / Worked

I remove my own shortcomings.

Open Marijuana Addiction & Recovery

Started when I was twelve. Quit two years ago. Still miss it, but no relapses. One of my boyfriends was also a heavy user, we used to get high together, quit together, and now keep each other in line.

Open Prescription Drug Abuse

Started experimenting when I was 13, quite the little pill popper by the time I was 14. These last few years I've tried hard to not take any kind of pills for any reason, and it sorta works.

Open Heroin Addiction & Recovery

Tried it for the first time when I was 14, and loved it so much it scared me. 15-18 I did it very sporadically, not often at all, never a lot. Summer '06 I had a lot of issues and I felt like heroin helped me deal. I got addicted, but was on it for only a few months before getting help and getting clean. A lot of text here for a generally unimpressive story, really.

Treatments

Methadone Not Working

Im allergic and happy about that.

Open Homelessness

I was a teenage runaway. Spent many different periods sleeping on other people's couches or on parkbenches. I got caught quite often and put in foster homes, but always ran again. My biggest achievement, and longest period being homeless, was when I hitch-hiked coast to coast the year I turned 15.

Open Family Issues

Mom's paranoid schizophrenic. Father was an alcoholic and a bit abusive, and apparently not my biological father at all. At least my biological dad and brother are cool, though it would've been nice to meet them earlier in life.

Treatments

Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful

Talking Somewhat Helpful

Open Schizophrenia

Mom's paranoid schizophrenic. I'm paranoid I might get it as well.

Open Anger Management

I have rage. Rawr.

Open Insomnia

If I'm lucky, I usually get a few hours of sleep during night, and some minor naptime during the day.

Treatments

Music Somewhat Helpful

At times, listening to the right kind of music helps me drift off. This is mainly only an option when I sleep alone though.

Open Vegetarians & Vegans
Type: Lacto vegetarianism (No meat or eggs)

Never been much of a meat eater to begin with. Became a fulltime vegetarian a few years ago (I thought you could be a vegetarian while still eating dairy products?). Tried being a vegan, but my doctor yelled at me.

Open Healthy Relationships

Currently in a mostly closed polyamorous relationship formation. We want to keep is as healthy as possible, of course.

Treatments

Patience Working / Worked

Not always easy, but often needed.

Talking Working / Worked

The most important part of making any relationship function, really.

Open Healthy Sex

I like sex. I'm trying to not be stupid about it anymore.

Open Accidents

I was involved in a rather bad car accident in '06, got sideswept by another car on the highway. I wasn't very physically injured, but my daughter and dog that were in the car both got hurt.

Open Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

For various reasons. Daughter seems to have trouble with it as well.

Treatments

Art Working / Worked

I love to draw and paint.

Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful

Works for some things, not for others.

Open Rape

Yes, it can happen to guys too. Due to the life I lived, it happened to me several times in my early teens. It happened again when I was twenty and was supposed to have gotten away from it all.

Treatments

Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful

Depends on the therapist.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

It's difficult to talk about.

Open Sexual Abuse

I ended up in a foster home when I was twelve, and the foster mother's boyfriend seduced me. For the longest time I thought I loved him, but now I see it for the abuse it was. I've also been in sexually abusive relationships afterwards, as well as ended up in other bad situations

Treatments

Art Working / Worked

I love to paint and draw.

Leave Working / Worked

It's the best instant solution for me.

Talking Working / Worked

It's hard, but it helps.

Open Physical & Emotional Abuse

Father was abusive when I was a kid, which landed me in foster homes. I've had the habit of going into toxic relationships in the past, though I do start it a lot.

Treatments

Art Working / Worked

Painting and drawing always makes me feel better.

Leave Somewhat Helpful

Got me away from the abuse, but landed me in worse situations.

Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful

Helped me realize and break some bad patterns.

Talking Not Working

Open Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Parent

Father died back in '05. I'm still not sure how to feel.

Treatments

Pets Working / Worked

Open Pet Bereavement

I've got a lot of pets, I've lost a lot of pets.

Open ADHD / ADD

I got the diagnose as a kid, but never really got any treatment. I'm still not sure whether I actually have it or not. Daughter recently got diagnosed with it as well.

Open Parents of Children with ADHD

My daughter was recently diagnosed. Considering her age I'm reluctant to accept it as ultimate truth, but I definitely think it's a possibility.

Open Asthma
Type: Childhood Asthma

My daughter recently got diagnosed.

Treatments

Breathing Exercises Somewhat Helpful

Inhaler Working / Worked

Open Tourette Syndrome & Tic Disorders

My daughter has some mild tics.

Open Bullying

Worrying about my daughter being bullied.

Open Motherless Children

My daughter's mother is no longer part of her life. My mother left my life when I was young as well.

Open Foster Care

Spent all of my teenage years in foster care.

Open Incest Survivors

Open Body Modification

I love body modifications.