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July 16, 2008 9:52am
Here we are, 5 days after finding out about the continued behaviors and lying, and I still feel like the real marriage is over. I simply …
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Jules144
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Is there an end in sight? When can I breathe again?
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About Me
Getting near signing a separation agreement, close to selling half my business to provide funds to buy him out, house goes on the market in a few days, kids back in school, life is a whirlwind. Ending a marriage of 15 years that produced 3 little crazies (8 1/2 and 6-yr-old B/G twins) because of his porn addiction, constant lying, obsessiveness, and controlling behaviors. IMHO, of course.
Interests
Playing piano, reading, being a mom, being an entrepreneur, running, generally being immature when I get the chance
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Jules144 replied to their discussion post Sex, love and the big-O in the Breakups & Divorce support group 5:25pm
Great attitude! I appreciate the movie reference too.…
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Jules144 wrote a discussion post in the Breakups & Divorce support group: Sex, love and the big-O 5:18pm
All this talk about DS couples and sex toys has got me thinking, and now I'm a little worried. Every…
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Jules144 replied to alone37’s discussion post Having a rough day in the Breakups & Divorce support group 5:08pm
Z is so right -- I think there's a lot of wisdom in the '7 stages of loss' concept, and if you try to…
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Jules144 replied to butterflyhigh’s discussion post What do you do when you are horny? in the Breakups & Divorce support group 4:50pm
Pasta, how do you know so much about this? Are you a sales rep?…
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YOU SAY THE SWEETEST THINGS! Actually, I've hurt Rebel's feelings on one of her threads before...
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Support Groups
Close Breakups & Divorce
Having found out a few days ago that my husband is still lying to me, I've decided to end our 15-year marriage. I need some perspective from others about how to make it as graceful as possible, some advice about the practical aspects, and some support from others who are struggling like me.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- He started out in individual counseling for compulsive behaviors (porn addiction, bingeing) but as I came into therapy it turned into mediation for petty arguments. I don't feel he entered it with the intent of repairing himself.
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- I think forgiveness helps me as much as it helps the person who needs it from me.
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
Close Sex / Pornography Addiction
Husband of 15 years tells me he's addicted to porn -- he actually was a member of this group last year, until I caught him using people's posts & profiles to continue this type of behavior!! -- so here I am trying to understand it all. I'm emotionally divorced, and deciding how to cohabitate until I figure it all out.
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