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Afraid of becoming overprotective.... Mood

Friday, July 25, 2008

So its 2:45am here and as you can see I'm still up. I thought about my son all day yesterday. I didnt tell my husband I just continued on. But anyways my husband said something to me that got me thinking alot. He said "Baby when God thinks were ready for another child or if we have another child, promise me that you will let me know when and if I become overbearing and too protective of you or the baby." So that got me wondering.... so I figured I should ask you guys. After things like SIDS happen when you have another baby how do you keep from being overprotective of them? I dont want to rob my child of childhood..does this make sense? I know that if Curtis were still alive I wouldnt be so antsy but at the same time I dont want to feel the need to check the baby every minute of every hour you cant live life like that. So how do you ease your mind?? HELP!!!!

Happy 3 month Angel day Chubby Cub!!! I know you are having a good time up in heaven. Keep watching over mommy and daddy!!! Thanks for sending that beautiful yellow butterfly!!! You know mommy loved dressing you in yellow....I just thought it was your color!! Well kiss everyone up there for me. I love and miss you Curtis III !!!!

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Nathan was my first so i can't really answer it i can tell you i have the same fears. I know my next child will have an nervous twitch from being woken up all the time

Moosesmom
I have a 16 month old at home, he had just turned 1 when Ari passed away, I still check on him all the time, it's abit of an obsession, I think it's just something thst we are all goign to do, but I've realized that I can't let the overprotectiveness stop baby shaun from experiencing life...in the beginning everytime he fell(he was starting to walk) I'd run over and panic as if something happened, but now I am a bit more laid back, but I almost have to force myself to do it. But I'm not sure how I'm going to handle having a new baby in the house, I'm sure I will be a nervous wreck, I will probably get an angel monitor, just for some peace of mind.

arihanna
I think once Finn is born I will be a wreck!

Leosmommy
I think once my new baby is born, I am totally going to turn into one of those overprotective moms that I never wanted to be. But I think it just comes with the territory - we just can't help it. I think that maybe by the time we have our next one - maybe I will be better. But who knows.

babymarley
It is hard, but the love you feel for the new baby is like no other. I think because of losing one before, you just VALUE AND TREASURE every single moment. I am worried ALL THE TIME and I think about losing Justin and how it would really truley put me over the edge. I do believe that God will not give you more than you can handle and that he would not let anything happen to my baby. I pray about it eveyr day. Some days I have tonnes of anxiety and I almost feel like I am having a panic attack, so I pray for God to take the fear and worry away and not to let anything happen to my children EVER again!

JoleneL
Honestly I know I will be paranoid like crazy with my next baby. With Tyce I wasnt at all, actually once I had him I was very relaxed, I thought I had my baby and was goona raise him, I never even thought SIDS could happen to me. Now with my next I will be crazy paranoid and always thinking that he/she has stopped breathing. Actually my anxiety is outta control, I poke my dogs or shake them if they are sleeping and I cant see their ribs going up and down and I live with my dad who got remarried and had twins who just turned 3 a few weeks ago and i let them sleep in my bed sometimes and i go crazy always thinking that they have stopped breathing and once screamed at the top of my lungs and broke out in tears because i felt my 2 year old brother in his sleep and didnt feel him breathing and thought he was cold so I yelled really loud "KYLER IS DEAD!!!!". and this is only my dogs and brother and sister (the twins are one girl one boy). With my next baby im going to be super overprotective and paranoid, I think it comes with the terrory of losing our babies- especially unexpectedly in their sleep. Sorry I've been no help, lol. But I have thought A LOT about this and I just know that I will be a worry wort. GRRRR!

ChristieZ
My anxiety still hits home with my son Brett (off and on) I am scared of losing him to really anything.. I lost my daughter to a heart condition when she was 2 wks old back in Aug 06 and my son was born Aug 07 and I thought my anxiety would ease up once Brett was past 2wks old but it didn't ease up at all until just recently.. So time will tell how you do in the future..
You can't help feeling the way you do feel, I don't think that you will deprive you next child of anything.. Hope that eases your mind alittle!!
lots of hugs, Michelle

Michelle2
You have to keep telling yourself lightening doesn't strike twice and pray that it is true. I am going to be baby Victoria's savior I think. I know all the other grown ups in her life are gonna want her in bubble wrap the moment she is born. We can't do that. I know I am going to be a wreck but I just have to have faith all will be okay!

NickNicksmommykitkat