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Divorced

Thursday, July 3, 2008 | A Breaking News story

Well I'm divorced. Sorta anticlimatic and what better way to find out it's final than having the ex show me the final decree and ask if this means we are divorced. OK, details, I'm at the house as they were leaving for the beach on Saturday morning and she comes up to me and ask's if this means were divorced. I, at first, thought that it was just a copy, but nope, signed by the judge. Now what do I do, do I show any emotion, nope, just like OK well that's that. Damn, of all the people I should have been able to open up to, well I guess it's past and there is nothing more to say.

I'm still waiting for my copy, forgot to look at the date on ex's copy. All I know is that it was sometime last week. My lawyer calls me on Tuesday evening telling me it's final. I let him know I knew and Sue got her copy last week. He is mailing my copy, thanks alot jackass for the heads up.

I was suppose to go to the beach on Tuesday night after work, but when I got home Monday, I noticed Maverick, my 12 year old dog, was having a tough time walking. He has some arthritis in his back legs so I didn't think too much of it. But on Tuesday night, he couldn't get up at all. I carried him outside just so he could use the bathroom (OK, too much info). Fortunately, my neighbor is a vet and she came over and looked at him. I took him into the vet on Wednesday and he has Lyme disease. Fortunately, it's not affecting his liver just his joints. I have medications for him and he is still very unsteady on his feet. Obviously, I didn't go to the beach and Sue and the kids came home late last night (after 2:00 AM so I guess that's early today.) I will have the kids this weekend and just thankful that Maverick will likely be alright.

Sorry to everyone, I know I haven't been on here lately. Just been down and doing what I shouldn't do and that's pulling back. Been back seeing my therapist and a change in my meds. I think I feel better at least I still feel good. Happy 4th to all.

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Happy 4th Tim.

Now that the divorce is final you can close that chapter and start to move forward. Sorry to hear that you are still having a hard time. Hopefully the change in meds will help.

Glad to hear that your dog will be ok.

Take care of yourself Tim, your kids need you:)

KimN3
Tim,
Welcome back. My heart goes out to you, especially on your dog. Hope that he will be ok. This is a touch and go time, and just know that if you need something, or someone to talk to, that we are here for you.
RHonda

rms
Your Lawyer is a Jackass...what a way to find out :(

I guess it's time to close that Chapter and open another one. The next one is MUCH better :)

Stick around and let us know how you are doing!!!!

Che2
Sorry to hear about your dog. Hey you beat me to divorce. Not like its a competition or anything. I sent a message about my beach house this month. I hope you can come. Bring the kids and I will be calling you. ;)

ChrisB
Hey Tim. Know this has been difficult. But you have been more gracious than many would. You enjoy your time with the kids this weekend. Embrace your "Independence" and look forward to the wonderful things that await you down the road.

JennM
Tim, You are a great guy and mean a lot to us all. It is hard to open up about things especially such hurtful things as a divorce. Don't feel bad. Your lawyer should at least have notified you. Sorry you could not get to the beach with the kids but glad the dog is ok. Keep in touch.

Njoy03
Well to say I was shocked to read this, knowing that we had a long conversation later the same night!! Well, at first I felt horrible and like a total jackass, me being my normal, stupid, silly self, messing with you and teasing you and just all around picking on you but NOW I realized, that is why you most likely called me out of the blue like that. You knew I would distract you. Completely get your mind derailed from bad thoughts. So although you never opened up to me and told me and we ended up laughing and having a great time for that hour or so, I am glad you thought to call. So although I was at first hurt reading about your divorce thru DS, I am now happy you didnt tell me that night. Otherwise, we wouldnt have had such a blast would we? And I am happy you came to me for a needed distraction. And I am happy that I was able to make you laugh and think other crazy, stupid happy thoughts for a small time.
So hmmm. Well, if me being stupid, crazy, flirty keeps you up and motivated and moving forward, guess I gotta do what I gotta do for one of my closest friends! :-)
What are friends for right? hugs, kisses and luvs, forever my friend. Tina

srambled
ps. I can REALLY mess with you now. Cuz you are no longer a married man. Whoo, watch out!!

srambled
Wow, that really sucks you had to find out that way. I'm glad your dog is doing better. I've been worried about my dogs getting that too. Not enough money to take them to the vet all the time! I'm glad to see you write on here, and really glad that you are spending some time in person with your DS friends. It's nice to know that they have stayed by your side.

Best of luck with this new phase of your life. Have fun with the kids!

SurvivingThis
Oh Tim...that is a really stinky way to have to find out. Its ok to be down and to really 'grieve' for your ended marriage...but you also have your future to look forward to. I hope things start looking up...and that you come back on here more often and let us all know how you are doing, it gets lonely on here with out you! HUGS

mrsmixedup