jap0123's Journal

i had my first individual counseling session today.  i think it can and will be a positive thing.  it will definitely help me to find the path to recovering from this and becoming a stronger person.  i told him about the couples counselor that my W and i had gone to see and how she immediately started saying, ohyeah you are the chiropractor(my wife is a dr.)  i would love to have a chiro. come work in my office hand in hand to take care of the physical and mental, and then go on about how she takes yoga at the same place my wife teaches yoga, and that she will have to take her class.....................blah blah blah........  i felt so nauseated by this and rightfully so.   the new therapist said that this was the most unprofessional thing that he had ever heard of a therapist saying or doing in his 30 years of practice.  i felt completely outnumbered in her office. 

anyways back to today, he told me i need to change my perception of who my wife really is.  i have had an idealized perception of her and only seen the things that i wanted to( the good) and have never really looked into what type of person she really is.  This was definitely true except for the last few weeks, which have really been eye opening.