lj1000md’s Profile

Close Families & Friends Of Addicts

After 22 years of being married turns out she has been an addict. She has been addicted to prescriptions, weed, alcohol, and now had an affair and blames it all on her addictive personality. I am stuck in the classic fight or flight mode most guys fall into. Do I stay and support her or pack my stuff? I have two young daughters that need a sane mother. It will break my heart pull them away from her. She keeps telling me is is working a prorgram and trying to recover. How do i trust her again?

Treatments

Al-Anon Working / Worked

I have been to a lot of meetings so far over the last two months. SOmetimes they work and sometimes they do not. I feel that I am trying to deal with multiple problems and when I am really upset about the affair none of the ALANON stuff helps me at all, in fact it makes me even more angry.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

No. I am starting to hate these people. I have not found a person yet that I think is worth paying. THe past two people Ihave seen just sit there and smile and say you are doing so well, just keep it up.

Talking Working / Worked

I have been working an Alanon phone list with a lot of success. WHen ever I have to deal with the addict in my life I try to call them before and after to express any anger and rage I have so I do not do anything stupid or with a knee jerk reaction.

Close Anger Management

I have kinda known it for a long time, but today I have an issue with anger and need to get in control fast.