JeffAndrew’s Profile

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Partner/Spouse

Loss of spouse, kids by separation. Death of father/mother/grandfather yearly. Alone at home, feeling devastated. Looking for friends close to home. Need on line support. I am a biological female, and a transgendered person, id 75% male and 25% female. I am very sensitive, spiritual, and usually emotionally strong, but all issues combined are beyond me. Being TG has added to my isolation on Long Island. I am retired and mostly stay at home. Economy has hit me hard. On fixed Income/ need ideas.

Treatments

Crying Somewhat Helpful

I cried for days ecer since she left on the 19 of this month, and even before for many months, as I saw the relationship deteriorating.

Grief Counseling Too Soon to Tell

I am seeing a counselor for all issues above once a week, but the rest of the week I am just looking at the walls inside the house.

Helping Others Working / Worked

That is what got me into trouble to begin with. I am always helping people, except very few help me back. This time around I need support, I need to help myself. find myself again, try to reinvent my life and find trustworthy family and friends.

Keeping Busy Considering

I am disabled, retired and mostly stay at home. I have financial troubles becasue of the economy and oil prices for the home. Trying to become involved in something. Go to church on Sundays and joined the local UCC. I do have a graduate degree in Social Welfare, it is just hard, because of the deep feeling of loss, lack of purpose, isolation.

Music Too Soon to Tell

I am avid music lover, but I am devastated. It is just noise to my deep pain. I need to sort this out, process it and find family and friends. I need to find venues to find very spiritual family and friends.

Pets Working / Worked

Yes, one cat and two dogs. They are my lifesavers. However, I need human relationships as well. Love my pets, especially my two dogs. I cant fly and travel becasue of them, However, I would not change anything becasue I love them.

Poetry Working / Worked

Not poetry, but I like to write. I was suppossed to write a book. In the middle of all of this, seems senseless. I need to fulfill my basic needs first. I need to find a support group, friends and new family.

Prayer Working / Worked

Yes, I pray. I am very spritual and have even attended a Seminary for some time. When I pray I feel peace, but the harsh reality of my situation is ever present. Need to do something concrete about this.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Yes, I do see a counselor, but it is just so many issues, on one hour a week. Can't afford any more time.

Reading Working / Worked

Yes, I read. Love education. Again, is the loss of my family and the need of family and friends. I need to somehow find new family and friends.

Remembering Not Working

With my ex spouse, is just more disappointing. With my nuclear family, well, I just wish they were here, even if just for a little while.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

This is another issue. I have two sisters, one brother, but unsupportive most of the time. Their level of maturity has brought me into the need for me to stay away from them because they have hurt me in the past in serious ways, without them even understanding what they did. That is hard on me too, becasue I wish it wasn't the way it is.

Support Groups Considering

I just dont find any around where I live and surrounding my issues. That is what I was trying to do when I searced the web and found this site.

Talking Working / Worked

Yes, this helps, I just dont have with whom to talk on a daily basis.

Close Transgender

FTM need top surgery/Did hysterectomy due to medical reasons. Just lost spouse/stepkids. Had deaths in the family, looking for support, friends, and to restart my life. With time, will be looking for a new home for my spirit, a stable and long lasting relationship.