ReaperSF's Journal

Well after my wife and I went through with the divorce the only thing I asked is that she come over on my 31'st B-Day and spend time with me and the kids together so the kids no both their parents are capable of being in the same room. We have talked on the phone a few times a week, some not more then 10 minutes, others upwards of 45 minutes.

The day before my Birthday she told me she wasn't sure if she was going to come over. She claimed that she felt uncomfortable around me. Then the day of she said she wasn't going to come over about 2 hours before I was expecting her here. I have done everything in my power to do right by her in this divorce. I set her up a checking account through USAA before the divorce is final so she can always use them. I told her to take whatever she wanted from the house and I would be ok with it. I rented the U-haul to get the things she wanted to her place, and even put things together while she was in town with the kids. I want us to remain friends, but with everything going on she couldn't even spend time with me on my birthday.

She said that we had done something together for Mother's Day when we went to the park. I corrected her by saying that I called the day before and she said she was taking the kids to the park, and I asked if I could tag along seperate. She seems to forget that unless I bring something up nothing will happen, and her list of priorities does not have our friendship on it right now. It's hard to imagine after 13 years she can simply not talk to me for as long as she wants and it doesn't bother her at all. I am doing good as far as moving foward, though I was upset this weekend that she didn't come over. It seems easier on me now that I am pissed off at her then when I was trying to be friendly and civil with her.

I told her to text me when she was picking up the kids and when she wanted me to pick up the kids form here on out since she seems so uncomrtable around me she couldn't make it to my B-day... She hung up on me Friday at around 3:30pm and I have not spoke to her since. I tried to call her a little bit after that when I knew she had left work, but she didn't answer. I did my part to try and talk through the situation, now it's on her when she wants to speak to me.