recent03's Journal

Fuel your youthful spirit

Embrace Life!  Bring the neighbors together by organizing a block party at your house.  Or coach a little league team.  Share the joy and let your youthful spirit shine!

I thought it was interesting and along the lines of what we've been talking about this week here at DS.  We've talked about happiness and if we have to relearn how to be happy.  I think that some of things that I took for granted before are things that I have to remember not to take advantage of and appreciate them.  Some of those things:

1.  My son's smiles and when he says 'mom, I love you.'

2.  Watching the sun set and enjoying it with my mother, her husband and my son.

3.  Having people in my life who love me unconditionally such as my mother and my sister.

4.  Accomplishing little tasks such as cleaning out a junk drawer or closet.

I'm sure there are many other things that make me happy or cause happiness in my life.  I will continue to look for the small things daily and add those to my list.

copy and pasted this from a post today:

"You need to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take some time, you are FIERCE with reality."

This was written by a woman named Florida Scott-Maxwell. At 16 she was an actress, at 20 an author. As a mid lifer she worked for women's rights, wrote plays and raised kids. At 50, she studied with Carl Jung and became an analytical psychologist. When she was 84 she wrote a book called "The Measure of My Days", a meditation on aging.

Sarah Ban Breathnach said "I love her phrase "Fierce with reality." I think she means for us to say "Okay, Reality - you took my husband (or wife) but that's all. You haven't taken my spirit. I can peel away the layers, and the unique and strong (in me) can be revealed. I can reclaim all these qualities. Fiercely."

Refuse to let your soul hemorrhage because ONE man or ONE women decided not to embrace all you have to offer. Peel their opinion of you off like an old coat and continue to give what and who you are to the world.

That is plan.

I responded with this:

People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. ~

I like this. I find this very interesting because my husband left home to "find himself". I like how you have worded it because it sums up my feelings. He wants to try and create himself into something that he wasn't in our marriage. He can certainly go and create a completely different person than he was and I guess I have to respect that, do I??? I can not worry about who he is creating, but rather on creating the person that I want to be (and that does not include worry or fear or hurt feelings). Thank you so much for inspiring us. I love some of the posting going on these days. I think we are really trying to learn and heal around here. What do you think?