Gilanon's Journal

Well the fight for custody has begun.  I filed the paperwork this morning, saw a judge this afternoon, and got a court order keeping the lil one in the home and allowing visitation for the mother as long as I'm in at least the next room over.  So no more worries about a mother that passes out at random trying to care for this child at least.

The down side is still no word from the mother, the state fully expects her to turn up in an ER somewhere at some point.  Her friends are fully keeping her in the delusion that he can get full custody and then her life will be fine after that.

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This is a unusual situation and hard to understand for some I suppose.  Alot of medical factors that got involved and screwed alot of things up.  I doubt anyone's really reading this, but in case there are just a couple points to make clear.

- The child has been the first and foremost issue in all of this.  Every step I've taken has been with the full suppourt of the state as well as other "official" types.  The things I've been forced to do has actually damaged the chances of this ever working out well.  My entire family is the victim of a misdiagnoses and over medication.  Me and my daughter have lost her mother, and the mother has lost her entire life.  Though under the circumstances the only thing I've been able to do is help my daughter.

- The GF is just as much as a victim as anyone, she well snap out of this and I don't know if she'll even survive what she's done.  Consider her suffering from multiple personalities, but with full memory of everything her "Evil" side has done.  She's physically harmer her daughter, she'll never forgive herself for that alone.

-I don't know if I'll be taking her back or not.  That part depends almost entirely on her.  If she wants to return home because she likes my cooking better, but refuses to change a single thing or get help, then there's no way that'd work out.  At the same time, if she seeks help and is willing to put some safety's in place for the child, then we can probably work together and fix at least some of what's happened.  What was done to her was done to the whole family and I can't hate her for what someone else forced her to do, but it's up to her whether she wants and is willing to take her life back.

I know how hard it is sometimes to get a true "feel" for what is being said and the instinct to apply one's own past and personal situation on what they see around them and how that doesn't always turn out to be the case.  This is too no one personal, but I seem to have hit a rough spot in seeking advice oh one of the forums here.  Too many other "issue's" keeping getting advice, things I didn't talk about and have no real place in what I was asking about.  Even if those things did, I'm still not getting any real answers anyways so I'm at a loss there lol.

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So now I pretty much have our daughter %100 protect.  My name only on the apartment lease, a court order has been issued to keep the child in the home with me, visitation with the mother as long as I'm at least in the next room over.

The GF is not going to be happy with anything that's happened and she might stop by this weekend.  There is of course the chance that after she realizes what's really happening and the fact that her friends have all been lying, using and abusing her, then maybe she'll begin to snap out of her fantasy world.  On the other hand her meds might still get in the way and she'll see this through till she has nothing left, but however it happens she will snap out of it as she's stuck in her cycle.

-Gil