we should NEVER beat ourselves up about being naive. Not all people are like this. It is easy for us to get sucked into a relationship where he shows what appears to be true compassion and empathy for our situation. We are not so much naive, as we are trusting. To a certain degree, we expect others to have the same values we do, so we trust and act accordingly. This is not a failing, it is normal and actually a gift that causes us to sometimes be vulnerable to those who would take advantage of it.